I am also a tea totaler. I have tried alcoholic beverages--in small amounts out of curiosity, but never cared for it, and never bought it for home use, and I've never been to a bar. I also don't like having it in marinades or other food preps, as I don't like the way it makes foods taste. I also don't see the sense in getting drunk. I tried a puff on a cigarette once to try and understand why others smoke, but I still don't understand. I also can't stand people criticising every morsel I eat. Fortunately, I now live alone, so I only have to put up with that when I visit relatives--as seldom as possible, or when they call on the phone.--Yes, they give me a hard time about what I eat over the phone! And I am in my 50s. Why on earth would I want to make frequent visits to people who constantly criticise me?
I don't know what to suggest to deal with this problem, other than to minimize contact. It's the only way to reduce the stress others cause me.
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