Eating Problem

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Okay, so I no longer have an eating disorder, which is such a relief. I do binge every once in a while, but not often enough to still have binge eating disorder, to have health problems or to gain weight. I have this eating issue I want to work on, though. I do still emotionally eat every once in a while, but it's a rare occurance. However, even though I usually eat according to my body's signals, I eat a lot--not because I have a weight problem (I don't, I'm skinny) but because I have a high metabolism and I'm hungry. When I eat an extra snack or two in addition to "what normal people would eat," I feel ashamed of myself, and I worry that I will get fat. How can I eat what I need to without feeling ashamed?

Try to tune out other people finishing first when you are eating.

If i were eating with you I'd sit and stir something on my plate until you were done, and hope you'd do the same if it were me taking longer, but there's social pressure on women I think to not eat much and not appear to be eating much that's likely contributing to you feeling ashamed. Try to tune it out. If you're hungry, you're hungry.

There's nothing wrong with eating when you you're hungry. I know some people who would kill to have one of those high metabolisms. I lost mine when I was about 8.

An extra snack or two? Why not. Teenagers need to eat more than adults. That's a fact. When me and my friends were 17, we'd be competing to see who could eat the most, not who could eat the least (maybe it's different for boys though).

Anyway chances are no one even notices if you eat a bit extra.

I can relate to a degree. I used to have severe anorexia as a teen, and have since struggled on and off with binge eating and bulimia.
I also go to the gym and do weights and keep pretty active for a large part of the year, which meant I had quite a lot of muscle compared to fat, and I have quite a large appetite for a female (I am 5'10, 136-138Ibs). I still feel guilty and ashamed when I am out eating with my mother, who is a lot older obviously, because she eats so very little, maybe 1000 calories or less a day, while I maintain weight on over 2000. The old anorexic thoughts creep in and I find myself feeling like a real pig when I finish my meal and have dessert sometimes, while she leaves a lot of her main course, saying she is full. It is hard to remember the logic that she has stomach issues due to past chemotherapy, and is older and shorter than me, and also a larger size. All I see is that I am eating more than her. It is a real pain.

All I can suggest is that you focus on you and your body and needs (the same as I need to be doing) and not compare to anyone else.
Unless you are developing a weight issue, you do not need to worry.
But if you start emotionally overeating on a regular basis, that would be more cause for concern.