Self-Esteem and clothing

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I find that wearing obviously gendered female clothes makes it easier to socialize.
When I tried to present male it was obvious that gender calculators would return the answer "does not compute, please try again."
Small hands, no Adam's Apple, high waistline, short petite hourglass figure all say female.
As well as my voice, mannerisms, and walk.

As a bonus there is a ton of clothes for me to buy sized in woman's XS.
Typically the large sizes sell out first, leaving the small sizes for discount sales.

I can see what Brian means by clothing and self-esteem. I feel kind of the same way but maybe not as dressed up

During the warmer months of the year, I admit I am into polo shirts VS t-shirts. I like these-https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-3501649/mens-grand-slam-off-course-textured-golf-polo.jsp?skuid=72531305&gclid=95185ccfc7951d431f6d3b366183fad5&gclsrc=3p.ds&msclkid=95185ccfc7951d431f6d3b366183fad5

They have to be of this material, those pique polo shirts are like a cheese grater on my skin. Nike golf makes some nice ones too. I used to wear an undershirt with them, but I find it feels better without. I don't know, wearing a T-shirt seems sloppy or something a kid does.

I wear shorts at home or just running a quick errand (say I need something in the middle of a house project or need to run to Kroger quick) but otherwise I wear jeans. My usual outfit is jeans and a polo shirt un-tucked. Shorts again, feel little kiddish.

I also kind of like jewelry. I've had my ears pierced for a really long time, 2 piercings in my left, 1 in the right. I prefer hoop earrings; I have a few pairs of surgical steel ones. Silver, gold, black, blue, and rose gold. I have a couple of rope gold chains. I'd probably have a couple of decent brand watches if I knew they wouldn't get messed up at job.


Footwear, I have a thing for Asics sneakers, but I do really like wearing cowboy boots. I own a few pairs, and I live no place near Texas. Going back to the self-esteem thing, I guess when I wear my boots, I feel more manly and more in control of things. Maybe it's something psychological to cope with my anxiety and being an introvert. I dunno. I will wear sandals if its a hot day and I am not at work.

I do like baseball hats as well.

Maybe clothing in a sense is sort of masking, meaning not being associated with Aspergers stereotypes, not trying to sound like an a-hole but that's just how I feel. I feel that people take me more seriously in how a present myself. Another thing is, when I grew a beard a few years ago I noticed I get treated better it seems like. Now, I do all this because I want to and I feel comfortable this way. Some may feel comfortable a different way and that's fine. You be you.

I have some very nice golf clothes as well as a set of custom golf clubs.

The last summer of work they put in a dress code that no longer allowed shorts.
But, it allowed wearing skirts to work.
Yes, I shaved my legs.

^ Thank you, King Kat! That's true that you have to make a decent impression on the outside sometimes. I like order, organization and cleanliness too.

I went to Brooks Brothers at a mall in the 1990s and they wouldn't sell me a suit!
I was too small for anything to fit properly in the men's or boy's department.

Now that I have gained twenty pounds I can now wear the smallest women's sizes.

Brilliant Brian0787.... it is almost like a magic trick to use this accent to your appearance to help masking or not.
WhennI see myreflection in a window, or the odd mirror . Dressing well .. helped self esteem very much for me.
Keepings one self. trimmed up in general appearance helps a bunch. And yes most often around the home am quit abit less formal in appearance . It has beenyears ,I have do e this and as age has come upon, Sm alittle less trim, than I once was and a few extra grey hairs . Which oddly enough has seemed to inadvertantly , seemed to help the respect, I feel from the average person . When in public. With the rare occassion when a street person might consider myself to be a good target to play, or muech money from. Its not that I do not wish to help my fellow human, but I do wish the time and choosing of when I express generousity . And many men seem to consider females to be a soft touch so to speak..
It has appeared to me. Also a long passed boyfriend told me to carry a second obvious wallet wallet. with a few 20.00 dollarbills in it, incase of of possible muggers. And hideout wallet with all ID and important stuff. best to fumble and drop passbook ( decoy , wallet) if front of mugger and run immediately after dropping it. But never had that experience
in life yet.Since adulthood .

I forgot to mention this but I like tinted glasses. My regular prescription glasses have transition lens's, which I really like as I hate bright light and also like regular sunglasses as well. I wish I could wear dark glasses indoors as I don't have to worry about making eye contact and I just feel like less of a weirdo with them on.

I don't have self esteem problem, but not liking to wear a suit to work (hardly practical for an engineer) certainly didn't do my career prospects any good!

That people think that "clothes maketh the man" is ridiculous, as any con man can put on a smart suit, but pointing this out will not alter people's opinions.

I remember resenting being made to wear a suit when I spent half the time on my knees under people's desks.
**Remains deliberately vague for amusement value**

I can't remember how many suit trousers from which I wore the pinstripes off the knees.

Where is IT when you need them... ...do not let IT dictate your dress code.. ....
Auto darkening glasses with frames that accent your facial features well, may serve you well.. My blue blockers I used for Comp type screens are also auto darkening in brighter lights,. Many online stores carry these.
Anyone can live a life ..not all can do it in style ..