I'm at a total loss right now...

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There are times when I'm hyperactive, clapping my hands while making giggly squealing noises and can't stay still worth s**t... and then times when I want to focus on writing but for some reason my mind is like this huge fog and all my thoughts are having a hard time processing. This causes a lot of heavy frustration and ends up triggering my anxiety. It's getting worse rather than better and I'm not sure if its because of the concerta or not. Problem is, my mom has it glued to her brain that I can't just stop taking it without lowering the dosage. I am diagnosed as being autistic and also having ADHD. I have other issues that I notice aren't defined by autism or ADHD.

For example, I have this HUGE attachment to my parents. They have to do things for me, like speak for me, buy things for me and even go in with me to places. I don't like being by myself out in public unless I'm in the car waiting for them. What I mean is, I can't walk into a store by myself, get what I want and pay for it. I get nervous and it ends up causing me to meltdown.

My parents have to be with me. I can't get a job either because I can't function in a job setting without getting frustrated or stressed out over every little thing. I just want to be home where my parents are. I can't go to college either because of the issues with attachment. I've been in high school before and I end up crying on the phone in the nurse's office to my mom, begging her to let me come home.

I'm not sure if it is Autism or if I might have some attachment issues. I've got a number of varying developmental delays that I've noticed. I am terrible at math but perfect at written expression and reading. I also have trouble with abstract questions or anything beyond basic communication. I can communicate but I am terrible with verbal expression and reading comprehension... as well as having memory loss over a period of time. I can't remember things passed my twenty-first birthday except bits and pieces.

I don't know what is wrong with me. I have so many problems that I'm not sure what to do. Yet, I can't seem to explain them enough to my psychiatrist so he can help me.

Does anyone have any ideas about this?

I don't have the exact same issues, but I do share several of the things you mentioned. Over the years I've learned to hide some of it. But the fog and the inability to go places, well I don't think I'll be overcoming that. When I have to go somewhere it takes me a long time to work up to it, and a long time to recover from it after.
It worries me that you can't remember things past your twenty first birthday though. It that from medications' side effects?
The good thing (one of the good things) about wp is one can be here without going anywhere, and find if not solutions then certainly understanding.

Anxiety reducing drugs can interfere with memory formation. Mind I I ask what you take for anxiety?

It's not my anxiety meds. I've had memory problems even before I started taking them. I only recently started taking them and I know that's not because of the meds.

I'm the same way. I'm either hyperactive and moving around, or I'm able to sit still but I can't concentrate on anything. My math skills are piss poor and my memory isn't all that great, but writing is really easy. However, I am just fine going into public places alone without my parents. I even spent a couple of summers living alone without them as a teenager. You're saying you don't know what's wrong with you, but you also seem to already know the answer. ADHD, autism, seperation anxiety... those things. Yeah, it's true that Concerta makes some people feel anxious. But your antianxiety meds should counteract any anxiety caused by the Concerta. As for your memory problems, try writing important information down. That way, you make external memory so your brain doesn't have to work so hard. And regarding seperation anxiety, you need to practice doing things without your parents. The only way to make seperation anxiety less severe is to put yourself in situations where your parents can't be with you. Besides, nobody's parents live forever.

I've tried that. I've told my mom that at the anime con I go to I would like to try and do things myself for a bit... but she's so afraid that I might have a meltdown... or that something will happen and if she's not there to try and settle things. My mom tends to baby me a lot and doesn't let me try things on my own. She has this fear that I'll go totally out of control... which is stupid because she's fine with me going off by myself in wal-mart or something. She's also the reason I can't try going to college and finding some way to accommodate for things I want to do.

My dad is usually all FOR me doing things on my own for a change. Because he knows I have to eventually... but my mom is so stubborn that she won't do that. That's half the reason why I have such terrible SAD... My mind relies on her babying me all the time and because its adapted to that kind of routine, it only makes it harder for me when I want to do something myself... she doesn't realize that when I do have those problems that its just my way of coping with what is going on.

It's almost like she is holding me back. No matter what I tell her she just insists she has to be with me at all times. I'm not even that bad with my autism and other disorders. I have been able to manage them really well as I've gotten older and have only had minor issues. One bad meltdown for comes not even once a month but less... I am capable of doing small things like this... like at the anime con they have the vendor hall where they sell stuff.... I could easily just go there and walk around myself for a while and I would do fine. Because I know I can do that. I can even talk to the vendors myself and ask questions... and practice good social skills. But whenever she's there beside me... its almost like I feel MORE disabled... because sometimes I want to get away from her and try things.

I mean at an anime con, its not overwhelming because anime is like my number one interest. I have no problem interacting with people and making friends there. Besides, I feel silly having my mom walk by my side as if she has me on an invisible leash all the time. We have cellphones and if something happens... its not like I can't call her and tell her when I need her. I know can always go with the manager of the event and let him know what is going on... and that I've called my mom to come help me.

I'm not a stupid person but sometimes I feel like she treats me like I'm a ret*d (no offensive to anyone who is mentally-challenged... wanted to make note of that). I think I realize that its what causes me to be more like a child because with my mom constantly holding me back and keeping me from progressing into being independent for even just a short time... makes it harder for me to break out of my shell.

Yeah, I know how hard trying to become more independent can be when you have a parent who insists on being overprotective. My mom is kinda the same way. On one hand, she'll tell me to run into Costco and buy her some cigarettes, but when I'm at the PAX gaming convention she tells me to stay where I can see her because it might be too much for me to handle (even though I'm fine because it's a game con and I love video games). And she asks my bother to get a job and look for an apartment to move into, but never expects me to have any independent living skills. You said that sometimes you feel like your mom treats you like a ret*d. To me, I feel like I'm treated like a defective f**k-up who is incapable of doing anything alone. I want to ask you something. Do you make friends easily? Do others enjoy being around you (in everyday life, not online)?

I have the same problem when trying to write. I feel like I have a lot balled up in my head during the day but when it comes to actually writing it, it comes out wrong.

Not really. x.x I have a really hard time meeting friends mostly because of how bad the anxiety and Autism are together. I'm usually the one kind of withdrawing and not interacting because of how overwhelmed I am. >< It really sucks. So the only friends I ever have are my friends on Facebook. x.x