What can i do about this?

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At a measely 5ft9 i am not a big guy at all.

it seems that i get stressed over small things such as my height (although i do get stressed over other they don't cause me as much mental toruture as my height insecurities)

how come i get stressed over small things so easily? for example last night i was at a dinner party and most men there were a bit taller than me and it was terrible becuase i felt a tight jabbing pain in my stomach, breathed faster and i got really paranoid and stressed over it.

Unfourtantly as well we live in a society were tall men are deemed too be superior too short or average height men and are more successful. maybe i just suffer from angry little man syndrome? who knows?

all this anger over my height is ruining my life and i have been obssesing over the subject for 9 years now.

Jamesy! 5'9 is not in any way measly! Have you researched body dysmorphia by any chance?

I also do not feel that 5'9" is all that short for a man.

I am 5'4" and my best girl friend is about 5'8" and whenever I see her I feel that she towers over me. I have to imagine that a man of the same height would give me a similar impression.

There are a lot of girls who are quite short, and who would find you quite tall enough.

In addition, I know of several guys who were quite short, as in, my height, who are now married. I think it depends more on having confidence to present yourself, whatever height you happen to be.

you are not short at all

not all girls want a giant

most girls want a guy a few inches taller than themselves as you are 5"9 and the average woman is about 5"5 you are in the right range

Purchase did u bring up body dysmorphia becuase people with the condition are disatisfied with there bodies?


Okay how can i get over feeling inferior around taller men?

Feels like they can see more than you

What do you mean see more than me?

Yes.




You have to somehow get rid of the idea that being shorter makes you inferior. First, 5'9 is not short and second, there will always be someone more something than you, and that goes for everybody. You have some characteristics that other people, including taller guys, are envious of. Body dysmorphia is considered related to OCD so it's something you might want to see a therapist about.

MTV used to have a show called Singled Out, where a bunch of guys or girls would try to go out on a date with the contestant, who would use different criteria offered to whittle down the crowd. The girls on the show almost always picked height as one of the first criteria, and they divided it as 5'9 and shorter, or 5'10 and taller. Naturally the girl always picked taller, so the 5'9 and shorter guys never stood a chance. Being 5'9 myself at the time, it really ticked me off that girls were like that, because I had a hard enough time with girls without being too short too.

I grew an inch since then, but I don't think of myself as tall at 5'10 any more than I did at 5'9. My suggestion to you, Jamesy, is to start working out, if you're not already. Then, instead of thinking, "man, I hate that these guys are taller than me," you can think, "Yeahj, they may be taller, but I can totally kick their asses."

5'9" and 5'10" is precisely the average height for a man. I'm 5'10" and I've noticed it is often hard to find clothes in my size because they tend to be picked over (my weight is normal). Height doesn't hinder people's chances for a relationship with anyone worth keeping, but insecurity doses.

Have you considered counseling?

well somehow i need too develop a defense mechanism too deal with my height insecurity.

sacrip actually working out can backfire badly becuase it makes you look shorter and less desirable too women.

Since being insecure and thinking about what you think about doesn't allow you too think as clearly as them. So they are able to see more than you.

Well for one 5'9 is not short, thats almost 6 feet tall...most people aren't that tall. I am quite short even for a female because I am only 4'11 but I don't see how that would make me inferiorior other then taller people can probably pick me up easily and I can't pick them up. But anyways maybe you should talk to a therapist.....because it sounds like this could be a major issue for you. I can't diagnose someone over the internet but if the obsessions about your heighth are interfering with your quality of life chances are there could be a disorder to explain it.