What is wrong with everyone thinking I'm slow or stupid?

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Lately I have been having people think I am completely slow or really dumb and I don't know why that is. I am 17 male and a lot of the kids at my school think I am "a little slow in the head" I get comments saying that I screw up or that I take to long to do something and I don't know why they are so impaitent. Also a lot of people think I am completely stupid because I have social problems and they say that I don't react quick enough when I am around people. I have a five second delay when I am talking to someone and when I do respond to them the other person gets mad and irritated at me and I am not so sure if it is my autism or something else. I have been known to space out a lot when this happens and that is what makes people mad. I get comments like "Dude oh my god you are really slow" or "Dude do you really take that long to think?" Or other comments like that. I don't know why people are so freaking impaitent but I have been made fun of a lot because of my slowness. Is this just me? I will add more details later but that is it for now.

It is funny that my mom and my grandmother both trying to tell me to take pauses before I respond. They are telling me that "taking pauses" is a sign of intelligent person since intelligent person will be careful to "think before they speak".

Now I never follow their advice. In fact my natural pattern is the opposite: I interrupt a lot and if I don't, then I tend to "blur things out" the moment the person stopped speaking. But, at the same time, I also say a lot of stuff that I want to correct later on. I often get myself in situations when I say something that people take wrong way and then I go back and say "no I didn't mean to phrase it this way I meant to phrase it that other way instead"; but no one takes me seriously. They still stick to what I originally said.

Could it be that your taking time to think is your way of "adjusting" to avoid the situations that I get myself into? Perhaps this particular way of adjusting is not a good one since it stands out just as much. So perhaps my mom and my grandmother's advice is bad as well; and I should be glad I never followed it.

I think my mom tries to teach me to be EVEN more of an aspie than I really am. The other thing she does is that whenever I make sudden decisions and run off to do something, she stops me and questions my every move IF she finds out (usually I just don't tell her because I don't like being questioned like this and thats why it is expecially angering in a situation when she does do it). Now, it is aspie thing to be afraid of changes. So since MY MOM is afraid of changes and not me, SHE is being an aspie, not me.

But she probably realizes that aspies do what they do in order to "compensate" for other problems they WOULD be having (like saying something or doing something before fully evaluating it hence regretting what was said/done afterwords). So she thinks that since I am not doing what other aspies do, she has to FORCE me to be more aspie, by being aspie for me. But she would never admit that thats what she does. If I confront her, she would tell me that all "smart" people think before they speak/do stuff, not just aspies. But from your post I see that it IS an aspie trait, just like I thought; not "smart people" trait at all.

Well, I somewhat agree with that. Of course I'm not saying that someone isn't intelligent if they don't pause before they respond.

I think if those people talking to the OP were intelligent or secure then they wouldn't pick on him for something like that. I kind of zone out sometimes too. Sometimes I feel like I am thinking through fog, cotton candy, or something and people think I'm not paying attention tot hem but I can answer them when they ask me a question or to repeat something that they said. It happens to me more when I don't get enough sleep or I am really stressed out.