Flashbacks

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Just yesterday i was in the store buying some grocery. Suddenly i felt a deep sadness and a thought about how my mother was raped most of the time and forcibly dragged to have sex by my alcoholic father came to my mind..I felt terrible and weird.
I couldnt brush aside the thought and it was disturbing...

Why such flashbacks come back from time to time???

I don't know. It would be nice to understand it so I could stop literally punching out the wall (and other stuff) due to violent nightmares.

This is a subject that is way too complicated for internet keyboard commandos except to say that you are not alone, and I strongly recommend seeing a psychiatrist and then add a therapist.

psychatrist and theraphy dont work for me i have tried it earlier....there is no problem with me...its just i have experienced horrific things
their medicines and talk theraphy do no good for me.
and in india they dont treat patients right.

There is one method used in crisis intervention that could prove helpful. In this method, the victims of a traumatizing experience are encouraged to tell a member of the crisis team what they have experienced in great detail and several times, basically again and again on a regular level like, say, every other day. After a while a habituation effect takes place, indicated by the fact that their description is slightly altered. Some of them need to tell their story hundred times and more often, but eventually the traumatic event is being processed by the nervous system and thus loses its power since the terrible effect of a flashback lies in its totally unexpected appearance that triggers a panic attack. By reliving the traumatic event again and again the victim becomes familiar with it.

You should find a person you can really trust and who doesn't need to be a therapist, just a good and trustworthy listener. They are not meant to comment on your story, just to listen empathetically and patiently. If you don't have such a trustworthy person, write it down as many times as you need to get familiar with the events.

The horrible effect of a flashback is the suddenness with which it short--circuits or normal mental state and forces us into a panic attack. Our instinctive reaction to a traumatic event is to cut it off, isolate and forget it, but it will use times when our mental alertness is decreased, like a state of relaxation or our dreams to pop up and scare us s**tless.

Please excuse the amateurish description, but i can highly recommend this method.

ok i will write it down.
probably i can write it down and send it to you daily on message box
and probably you could just reply with hmmm....huhh etc
and maybe it would get wiped out of my system.