Low Self Esteem: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy

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Out of curiosity, has anyone on this forum ever had cripplingly low self esteem and then somehow ended up with a more balanced one? I'm not talking about somebody suffering from a manic episode after a depressive one. I'm referring to someone actually breaking that cycle of low self esteem.

I just don't believe anyone can overcome low self esteem through willpower alone. The whole point of low self esteem is that you don't believe in yourself, so the thought of self help for low self esteem (to me) seems like a bunch of nonsense.

To feel really better about myself,
I think I'd have to just get very lucky. A drastic change in my circumstances would probably fix some aspects of it.
But I believe there are different aspects in a person's life in which they probably shouldn't feel so great. A little bit of poor self-esteem in the right areas, and dealt with properly, can be a good thing.

I've felt better about my body over time, but I have self esteem issues that have held me back for a while and haven't changed. Maybe if someone kind of gave me a self-esteem boost I might be able to take it further myself. I don't know.

At one point I thought I had developed better more balanced confidence, but it was probably more that I was doing lots of drugs with other people who did lots of drugs.........not that my self confidence was actually more balanced.

I had low self esteem all through my teenage years and early twenties. I broke the cycle by starting to think of myself as somebody who does get things right and who does have something to offer. I still have days where I don't feel good or a thought will get stuck in my head and affect the rest of my day though.

It's possible but it can be extremely difficult and it usually comes with making A LOT of changes in your life. Even if you do gain more self-esteem it still might not be up to par where you want it to be. It's a lot of work but it can be done, even if it's a slight change.