Any advice on how to get through the next month?

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Today I got to know that I'll have to wait another month until I get to start therapy. I'm depressed and I've got several anxiety disorders (all untreated) so I'm not doing too well. I sort of fear these next few weeks (the weeks until the therapy starts). Time goes by very slowly which is incredibly tough.

My life is all about waiting nowadays. I try to do the things I'm supposed to do (get through university etc) but it's very difficult and even though I try to keep myself distracted and occupied it feels like all I do is wait for the night so I can go to bed, sleep and then wake up to another day of waiting.

Any advice on how to get through this?

Get into tea. Simple herbalism has helped me past more than my share of panics and depressions. If you haven't been reading lately, do so - always takes me back to the escapist mindset of my years spent in public school.

And, as if I'm the first to tell you, spend as much time as possible outside. Gym if you must, but it can't compare.

Waiting is not a good option.

Of course you are waiting until therapy starts, that's understanable and the right thing to do. What I mean is, you can do something in this time too and not just waiting. Therapy wouldn't change your life, it'll propably just change very very slowly and with a lot of hard efford and inside and sometimes just time.

I always read into stuff and try to change some things when I'm in a "waiting time".
It can be little things like going for a walk every day you could change or something else.

Keep yourself gently busy with something really basic. ( ... count literally all the trees in a small forest ... ) Doing things instead of thinking.

Do what I do....absorb yourself in a personal interest or identify a new one. Because waiting for someone to present some answers can sometimes be the worst. Even sidoku puzzles and old fashioned puzzles or practicing a musical instrument can help. Almost anything really.

Really trying. Right now I'm trying to focus on studying. I've got a chemistry exam in 16 days so I'm trying to fill my head with studies to prevent myself from "overdosing" on thoughts. Even studying during the weekends. I'm exhausted but at least it keeps me busy. Still painfully aware of the passage of time though. The slow passage of time. Also, it's very difficult to escape anxiety and depression. They always find me.

Good suggestion, maybe give yourself a project like clearing out your room or flat, to keep yourself occupied.

One day at a time. Don't think about getting through the next month, think about getting through the next day. And the day afterwards, do it over again.

Been over a month now. Called them a couple of hours ago since I hadn't heard from them. Got to know they never got my referral. So I've been waiting for nothing. Triggered a panic attack/meltdown (don't really know the difference) while on the phone with them.

That's terrible, and now?

I don't know. The therapist said she was really surprised this has happened because it's never happened before. She said she'll call the psychologist who was supposed to refer me to find out what's going on and then get back to me. Now I'm really terrified that:

1. They'll say there's nothing they can do and that I have to wait even longer.
2. That the therapist will forget about me since that unfortunately seems to be a recurrent thing for me when seeking help.

This sort of thing happens far too often. I had to phone to get both my depression referral and Asperger's referral moving. Well done for managing to phone them and get it sorted out.

How's it all going? Did the exam go ok?

Thanks. Yeah, I've had to do this far too often as well and I'm getting extremely tired of it. Makes me feel very abandoned.

Things aren't going that well. At least I think my exam went well though. Have another one (a difficult one) in two weeks which I need to study for but I can't seem to find the motivation to do so.

Glad the other exam went well! Puts less pressure on you for the coming exam. And it's a big achievement considering how you are feeling.

I have a chemistry exam in two weeks, also. If you have any chemistry-related questions, I might be able to help! I am working on a timetable which includes structured ice-cream and TV breaks as rewards. I highly recommend ice-cream breaks. *sending motivational thoughts your way*

Unfortunately it doesn't put less pressure on me for the coming exam since the coming exam is in a different course. The exam I had yesterday was a chemistry exam. I really like chemistry and I'd say I'm pretty good at it. The exam I have in two weeks is a physics exam and I'm really not that good at physics. I find it a lot more difficult to understand than chemistry. It's also not as fun (except the astronomy part). Anyway, thanks for the offer. You any good at physics?

My only qualification in physics is GCSE at age 16. However, I have managed to blag my way into working in the physics department of the university I am at. I know a lot about physics relating to molecular simulation and materials, but completely clueless about other areas of physics!