My mind day to day (see if you can relate)

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I tend to be sensitive to being given a "hard time" like i can't tell if they are serious or not. I focus more on scrutinizing and analyzing faces and body language all day to see how people a judging me or what they are thinking about me, rather than my own self. When I make eye contact people look away like they are uncomfortable. I don't join in on social gatherings at work because I feel shy or that I don't belong. I share too much about myself and people seem to like me, even though I feel like I get made fun of the most (In a kidding sort of way?). I gt very irritable and feel a boiling anger inside me a lot of the time, but don't get it show. Does anyone else know what I mean? Have you felt this?

Just most of the time, it's damn tiring, frustrating and alienating.
At present I mostly stay at home, read, watch dvds, and do some gardening.
I only got diagnosed officially 2 weeks ago, and am still processing it.
Only got the written diagnosis in the mail today.
I plan to hook up with a specialised agency that deals in providing assistance and referral to ASD who wish to join / re-join the workforce or training.
I have had a lot of frustration with these kinds of services in the past, as my diagnosis had only been anxiety and depression; so they never got how difficult it was for me to re-write my resume, fill in job applications, go to interviews, or even face the anxiety of trying to find an appropriate job.
Hopefully with my diagnosis in writing this will help, but I'll have to wait and see.

So far as what to do about the symptoms you describe, regular exercise, healthy diet, and having a routine helps to reduce the severity.
I have never been one to feel like joining in social activities at work, and have left several jobs because this was a normal social activity for the employees and it just felt contrived and fake to me, either staying around for beers or going together to a pub; for goodness sake, we had all spent all day together, and all week before that, after that I just want to go home, or be around people I don't have to talk to, like my wife, friends that know me better, or just be alone.
You're not a killjoy for not feeling like joining in with others if they want to do that, if that's their thing that's fine, but you don't have to be one of them - that's at worst peer group pressure, at best unrealistic expectations.

Ironically in my case, my wife uses a wheelchair, so often I can get away with saying I'd love to come if my wife will be able to attend.
Often the places are not wheelchair accessible, or they have some mental gap and are unable to grasp the concept that 1) I prefer to hang out with my wife, as she is my best friend, and 2) If I am going to be expected to be somewhere in a social environment I am not fond of I will want someone I love and trust to be there with me as I face this difficult social situation.
Good old discrimination, it gets me out of this one most of the time!

I am exactly like that...the one single difference I have, which is paradoxically horrible to me, is that I feel a need--an urge, to be part of the social group. I want to be like them, even though they act fake and contrived. I feel like I need to have a superior social life instead of just my wife. But everything comes with a price doesn't it? If I do that, sure I may become more social and get more friends, but I may also be judged more, infringed upon more, get mad and sad over social foibles more. Everything comes with a price.