Help for understanding what condition my son has

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My youngest son has been diagnosed with autism. His older brother who is now 25 showed similiar behavior patterns as a child but at that time I was not familiar with autism so had no idea that is what he might have. Anyway my 25 year old started in daycare mimicking other people. For example he stuttered and blinked rapidly for almost 6 months because another child in his daycare did this. Throughout his life he consistently mimicked other people and changed his personality rapidly and to the extremes. This behavior continued as a young adult - for example he copied Pete Wentz (musician) in his late teens, then went on to decide to copy Malcolm X in his early 20s and went Muslim, hated all white people (he is racially mixed black and white) and even named his son Malcolm. This was coupled with hating me (his mother) for being white. Now his latest thing is after a failed marriage he now is imitating his exwife. He has decided he is now transgender and literally imitates his ex-wife's over the top temperment and mannerisms to the last detail. It is scary and bizarre to say the least. I have no issue with the transgender community, but I don't believe he is actually transgender, I think this is another over the top personality switch. For a family history, his sister has bipolar disorder, his father has paranoid schizophrenia and his youngest brother has autism. So there is definitely a family history there. I want to convince him to get some help as I am worried as he is taking non prescribed hormone shots now (purchased off the street) and what happens when his "personality" undergoes another radical change but by then he has changed his sex literally? There are also other issues such as he made up a back story to go with his new trans personality telling everyone I was a horrible mother (we were very close throughout his childhood and teen years and he was a straight a student and class valedictorian, plus I was a doting mother with birthday parties, childhood trips etc so no idea where this new hatred is coming from). He reminds me exactly of Roger the alien on the tv show American Dad where he makes up new personas complete with back stories! There has also been some other issues such as having two children with a very mentally bipolar girl, charges of child neglect etc. I have never gotten to meet these children as he was in his hating me for being white phase and now the new thing - I have no idea where my grandchildren even are. But anyway I still want to help in anyway I can because I really love my son. Any ideas or suggestions or input?

That's tough, some Vaknin to see if you recognize any (he's not a doctor)

Perhaps he has Borderline Personality Disorder sense they have an unstable sense of self. Or it could be Multiple Personality Disorder if he actually believes his backstories; Roger developed that in one ep of American Dad(he didn't know what one of his personalities was doing)
I'm not really sure how to help him other than encouraging him to talk to a professional.

I think you should have a talk with his doctor who is prescribing hormones for him. The result will be disastrous if he later regrets his decision. I don't think the doctor can ethically prescribe hormone treatment to someone who is mentally unstable in the way that you describe your son. It's like plastic surgeons. They have the right to refuse a patient who they believe is suffering from body dysmorphia. It is their ethical duty to do no harm.

I have no idea what your son is going through. I don't think it's narcissism or a personality disorder unless he is adopting these personas with the intention of manipulating others.