Male loneliness & mental health

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The Devastating Cost of Men's Loneliness - read below:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fear-intimacy/202111/the-devastating-cost-mens-loneliness

Great idea for a thread. Thank you

I read it. I understood it. Childhood comradery. Will never have that again. (You bond pretty strongly at school. In those formative years.) It's so true... I do think, woman are easier at making and keeping friends. I just don't really have a strong instinct to be friendly. I am a loner at my core.

Good read. I mean, I've read stuff about it and came to the same conclusions years ago, even though this doesn't really affect me in direct way. This issue surfaces from time to time in discussion in leftists (not libs, lol) bubble. Again, this is clearly another downside of human culture being rigged with certain, stereotypical thinking about gender roles.

Men are asked to carry a burden which kills them, literally - as rate of suicides is significantly higher for men than women.

To change this, we would need to redefine a whole lot of stuff about how societies function and how each of the individuals function within society. Were it not for my AS and super low needs for socialisation (wife, my dad and two kids are a stretch, usually I had enough mental capacity to care for maintaining contact with like two people at best), I would surely end up on antidepressants in this reality.

I'm just going to say that my survival instinct and mental resilience are apparently 10/10 for all the stuff from my life (lol). I don't trust people enough to get to know them due some of that said stuff. Yeah, I'm lonely (last friend was back in 2016, but mental illness does mental illness things and burns those bridges you want).

I guess life sometimes throws at you the things you can handle.

Loneliness has been up and down for me and I've dealt with 'em. I got high blood pressure so exercise and weight control helps depression and reduces the BP.

It's a good read and reminder.

Articles like these are as useful to me as an engineer’s report of how the gate’s improper design led to the gate being left open, delivered long after the horse had disappeared over the horizon.

Of note, this is generally talking about normal highly functional individuals that will have little troubles in day to day life compared a person with a simple Autism diagnosis. Which would compound that by an order of magnitude. This will likely be one of the reasons those with Autism tend to die earlier (something like around a decade for higher functioning ones), as they'll have far more loneliness on average.