Gay Aspergers !

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Gay here, no doubt. Enjoy sex when I have it, for the most part, although situational anorgasmia is a problem. Unfortunately, NT gays don't like me much.

hmm, thats no good...

I used to have an NT boyfriend, and things for easier when i told him about AS... so you need to find someone who can accept that too...

Alot of gays can't though sadly!! x

i seen this really hot guy in wal-mart once in chandler-tempe before. i wanted to get in his cart and go home with him, im more into girls than dudes but everyonce in awile i cant help but feel more ghey than usual!

haha nowte wrong with that!, its always good to be a bit gay! x

I'm gay and I have been looking for somebody with a different side to things and doesn't follow the mainstream, if you're that boy then Pm me please!
Thanks Jake x

i'm gay and stayed in closet much longer than I should have (until after divorce, age 36). It EASIER for me to date women because there were so many examples around (personally and on tv) for me to what and try to mimic the mating
rituals. In the gay world, believe me, the rules are very different and I found it very difficult. I purposely attached myself to very extrovert guy who was mentally and financially abusive just so I could be near him when we were out socially. I've left him in past but still find dating very hard and have found it best to tell guy upfront about the asperger's', if he seems interesting and intelligent.

I've never understood the rituals of either. I was lucky to find a great guy who was easy for me to figure out, probably because he didn't know what to do either, so we just made it up as we went.

This was two years ago, but I still miss him. I think moving away was the biggest mistake I have ever made. I didn't think I had a choice, but I keep thinking maybe I could have made it work.

I agree that the rules for heterosexual dating are different than for homosexual dating, but honestly going out with a guy feels much more natural for me and I actually feel like I know what to do with a guy. In acting class in High School I had to do a romantic scene with a girl once, and I really did not know how to play it at all, I felt so clueless. For heterosexual dating the guy is expected to be the "protector" of the girl. Like he's supposed to hold her, he's supposed to hold the door for her, he's supposed to buy stuff for her etc. When it's same-sex dating though, there are no expectations like that, since there's none of these assigned "gender roles" you can just be yourself and do whatever feels comfortable for you.

Although I have noticed most same-sex relationships do have a designated "female" and a designated "male" if that makes sense, since most of the time feminine guys/girls are attracted to masculine guys/girls and vice-versa.

WurdBendur said:

This makes a lot of sense the way I understand it.
Rather than trying to pass a mating ritual test,
it seems to me a closer relationship would form if people just figure each other out,
and thereby really got to know each other, instead of something like winning a game.

I'd say that this describes how I make friends and gay friends, and not by NV cues.
With friends I find special interests in common
and in a similar way
with gay friends I also find mutual likes in common
but not by flirting (which I don't do), just talking,
and if the topic of likes comes up then there's
more obvious opportunities to be affectionate if you like each other
since you know what you're both thinking about when you're talking about it.

well it can be difficult to date guys i guess

I'm glad you came out eventually

What got annoying to me was this one guy I like was one who was in some serious denial. Though I just forgot about and moved on after about a week or two. Though if you find the right one. I have found it quite esay.

awwr well done i am glad you have worked it out! x

I identify as same sex attracted and have been diagnosed with having aspergers but don't see any correlational between the two.

At one point in my life when I was questioning my sexuality and did think that because I had not had any sexual encounters with the opposite sex as a result of my social ineptitude it was reason I was attracted to same sex.

With that logic I went off and tried to intermix with females but it just didn't work. I actually found it quite "unnatural." In the end I had to question what exactly sexuality was and what it meant to be an aspie.

I concluded that we are all "bisexual" but just lean more to one side and that sexuality was something that is fluid, moves and evolves over time.

As Samantha said in Sex and the City "Wake up. It's 2000. The new millennium wont be about sexual labels. It's about sexual expression. It won't matter if your sleeping with men or woman. It will be about sleeping with individuals.... Soon, everyone will be be pansexual. It won't matter if your gay or straight."

I have gotten the whole "is she gay?" thing too because of my AS too.Yea Im a bit of a tomboy but Im also quite girly, love pink and purple things. Just because I like my love life to be private doesn't mean Im gay.Well tbh Im quite the bi-curoius type. I gotta keep quiet about it it's bad enough my parents have a AS kid let alone one in the GLBTQI basket as well. Ive had a bf who I seriously would have been married to if he hadn't died in a car accident nearly 3 years ago. He was gonna let me try the g/g thing and everything.

Having a child on both the autistic and LGBT+ spectra is not generally checked on the order form when parents are asked to describe what type of child they would like to have. Residing pretty far "out there" on both, my relationship with my parents (one of whom recently passed away) has completely dissolved. I'm not sure about how parents take the GLB news, but the "T" revelation is not one to strengthen relationships, especially the already tenuous ones autistic people often have.

I am majorly curious what this used to say, cause I missed it. Did anyone see?