Lesbian/Gay Bi or other Queer Aspies(positive posts please)

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that is soooo true about 'alternative brains. I also relate about getting along better with gay men. In my adult life my friendships have been gay men and my exes. Lesbians are as hard for me to relate to alot of the time as straight NT girls, I think it's the 'male mind' thing or something...it seems a really cliquish thing and I don't know how to do it.

Asbians love that need to put that on wikpedia, I am so happy people are connecting here. The queer scene anywhere is such a meat market, I have been immersed in it as a young adult in the seattle gay district. Whenever I am so deeply confused by my 2 lesbian friends with their complicated relationships and confounding social skills I can just come here where I don't feel inadequate.

That all sounds very very familiar.

I think that's familiar whether you're bi, gay, or straight though.

I don't suppose it wouldn't be. It really gets you down when gay/bi guys are so few and far between in the first place. Well, nice ones at least.

Well, at least we have this message board.

This is well said almost all of my old friends were gay men I was around alot of lesbians but socializing with them was a totally different game. Recently I actually made a friend with a local lesbian I had known casually for over a year, she is very NT and has done quite the number on me psychologically.

So anyway, I've recently found myself in an interesting situation where I like someone that I think is also on the spectrum, but she doesn't know that I'm a female-to-male transsexual at the very beginning of my transition, and I'm pretty sure she's heterosexual. I'm not sure when to tell her and how to tell her about my transition. Anyone else ever been in this sort of situation?

I'm not exactly in that situation (I question if I was supposed to be, or was born intersex... There's some questionable scars that can be felt...) but I know if I were on the recieving end of that scenario, I'd kinda preffer earlier than later. Not that the info would bother me at all, it's more that I would feel like I wasn't trusted if it was too delayed. I assume by you saying you are at the beginning of your transition, you mean you are dressing like a guy, and generally acting like a guy. I think it would probably be best if it were to be brought up basically while getting to know her. I wouldn't neccesarily recommend bringing it right up in the first few minutes, though, as you may freak her out. I wish Padium were still around here, as I understand she is likely further in her transition, and probably would have more advice for you.

I think we should ask for a separate LGBT subforum on wrong planet.Theres quite a lot of us about, it would be nice to have somewhere like that to discuss things

In addition to the dressing/acting in a more stereotypically male role, I am also taking testosterone, and I am hormonally equivalent to the average genetic male. But the rest has not changed yet.

I have gotten to know her a bit, mostly through community activities and the occasional going for coffee. I met her a little over a year ago, but I didn't make any moves signaling romantic interest until Valentine's Day. So, now that I have done that, I feel a responsibility to tell her about my transition soon, perhaps over another coffee outing. I hope she'll take it well, as the community we both belong to is comprised of a decidedly liberal social demographic. I have even written out what I'd like to say to her, but instead of handing her a letter, I'd prefer to just memorize what I wrote and tell her face-to-face. I hope it goes over well, and even if that kills the romantic possibilities, I at least hope to keep her as a friend.

It would be great if we had something like that on Wrong Planet. Then again, there is also an entire site devoted to us (Gay Aspie).

Is it a forum where we can discuss all our difficulties and dilemmas we have because of Asperger's on top of the already difficult situation of living in a world so against non heterosexual people?

seriously its really tough, i tried being a lesbian and found myself shut out from the lesbian community, oh we cant be with a guy. you know what that is exclusion. who says lesbians and straight men cant be friends, i mean if we have similar taste in women why not

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Wow, I completely agree, I always miss something important some cue and then its too late. I have only had short term relationships, can't seem to get to the six month mark. Partly though Omaha has a smaller gay population.