Is there any gay guys with Asperger's here?...

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jazz, showtunes and comfortable shoes are where it's at

Gay AS dude right here. Currently single, but working on it.

Hello other gay aspie people.

Yeah, I'm a homosexual. Don't worry, you're not alone.

I'm an Aspie and I think I'm gay. It's only been recently that I came to that conclusion. I guess since I felt most guys were expected to like girls I kind of ignored who I was really attracted to. It's kind of silly, considering I come from a very tolerant family and have a gay uncle.

It kind of worries me though as I'm not part of the subculture at all so I don't see how I'll be able to meet anyone. Noise and crowds are too hard on me for a club or bar to be an option.

As for people bringing up Christianity being intolerant of gays... I know that isn't strictly the case, but there are enough noisy people to make us fee uncomfortable. Not to mention the fact that I'm an atheist, so basically if I was open about who I was down in the Bible Belt, basically I'd be dead.

Oh, and as for music, I don't know that all of those would be considered gay. But certainly I love ABBA and show tunes.

I'm a gay male aspie. I personally prefer the term "gay" over the term "homosexual" because the latter sounds sort of cold, and it seems to be more often used by people trying too hard to sound formal or "neutral" on the issue of sexuality, or whatever.

Anyway, I don't mind most aspects of the gay scene. Aside from the fact that I've been to a Gay Pride parade and didn't really enjoy it (too many people ), I find myself to be quite a lot of things that most gay males are expected to be, anyway. However, I like to think of myself as effeminate and not flamboyant. I suppose one could classify me as the "shy gay guy" type.

I'm a gay (homosexual) aspie. I guess almost all lgbt aspies dislike the gay 'scene'. I dislike the gay scene too. Going to a club is usually a terrible experience. Being in a loud, dark place with a huge crowd is my worst nightmare.

I think it is a mistake to allow the word, "gay," to apply to too narrow a culture.

Yes, the bars, the tubs, the chatlines and the parades are prominent features of gay identity in today's cities, but I don't think that we should allow them to become the sole defining characteristics by abandoning the word to the twink on the circuit.

My partner and I have been together for 20 years. We own a house in the suburbs. We both have professional careers. We don't go to the clubs, but we are no less gay for all of that.

YUP!
1 more gay Aspie! But I actually prefer the term Queer, although I'm not trying to change anyone else's terminology, they're just words after all.

So, I've lived in a gay neighborhood in my large, gay-friendly city for several years, and I spend a lot of time with other gay guys. I've had a few relationships with NT guys over the years. I hang out at a cafe with a mostly gay clientele, and I still have a hard time finding potential mates. I think it's mostly because of my AS. I've also found that chatting with people online is just as hard for me as meeting dudes in person. So I've put up a profile on a dating website, and there are e-mails that are sitting there in my in-box and I'm too terrified to respond. This sucks.

Anyone have any suggestions???! !!

I'm a gay Aspie!! I totally want to find some others. Message me or respond here, and say hi.

hiya epicafan
welcome to this thing of ours

I'm a biromantic asexual, but I like men a bit more than women. I suppose that doesn't count though. D: