How "out" are you?

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I am a fully payed up lifetime member of doughnut punchers anonymous, I don't act camp but I do make it known I am gay especially when having to meet people, its not something I think they have a right to know but I tell people as it avoids issues later and that way you can seperate the people with issues and without for my own peace of mind.

I have had the benefit of know many lesbians who I have a more easyier time with as there is no real need for any confusion to ever arise about intentions.

Oddly I don't feel the need to pidgeon hole people but think its best to let them know so I can at least remove those that are not worth struggling with.

A few years ago I had the amazing honor of working with quite possibly the most epic Lesbian I have ever met, and the time I had known her, made me feel completely honored. we worked next to each other for 3 years and she became my kindred spirit / soul mate, we would regulalry argue and fight over just who between us was the gayest and also how gay we were prepared to go to prove it, she tought me more in those few years about accepting myself and what I was as well as who I was.

We would while away the hours trying to out shock each other about who we would or would not do in the office, and probaly left those working nearest to us quite shocked and traumatised with comments like "would you do her ? ( yeah until it was raw mate RAW) "., but it was all harmless

My mother is the only person That knows i like guys. But i'm too afraid and worried of what my father,brother,and sister would say or think, especially my other family and my friends. I'm not sure what to do. I'm halfway "out of the closet" But still in.

^ Loving the hair Charles91, I am very jealous.

At least you know your Mum can support you if you need it, it took me some time to tell the most liberal thinking of my brothers and I have never discussed it with my parents at all.

I keep the transman thing mostly to myself. I only tell people I absolutely trust. With people I have known in the past, I will either pretend I don't know them or I will still go by my feminine name.

I just don't want the trouble, and I know people are closed minded. Especially since I live in a fairly conservative, religious area of a mostly liberal state.

I am out as a lesbian to everyone who asks. I am out as trans to about ...two people.

This is the type of response I am afraid of from my parents....


This is how I am. It avoids confusion. And, I wish I had someone special in my life to know that last bit about me...

With my co-orkers, I think the party just starts at work. Then the leave to go get inebriated. I think one girl sometimes even comes in inebriated.

This still applies to me, though for different reasons. I'm almost completely asexual (I'm more in the sexual grey area.) whereas when I made the post I was demisexual biromantic. I don't hide that from anyone, but I won't mention it if I'm not directly asked. My sexuality type is just far too complicated to tell someone who isn't at least half interested.

And it goes way over anyone's head when I try to explain how I don't feel either gender. :D

That sounds really painful. I am not out to my family and everyone else in the town I grew up in. I feel you

Pretty much all my family know and all my friends.
I've only told one person at work, hinted to another, although I suspect the person I told has blabbed to everyone else..

I'm pretty feminine and just assumes everyone knows. Sometimes people want to know and I just tell them. I figured out I was gay at about fifteen when I got my first crush (late bloomer here) read a bunch of books about it and then promptly came out. It didn't really occur to me not to be honest about it. If people have problems with it well even if they didn't they'd complain about something stupid. Some people just need something to have a fit over.

Like many questions about my sexuality, this will be met with an answer that is more complicated than it needs to be.
The short version is "sort of." If anyone asks, I tell them that I'm bisexual, usually leaving out the fact that I'm more inclined towards girls to keep my answer short. Most people don't ask, though, and I've often made it clear that I think sex is kind of incredibly gross. So I'd bet that a lot of people I know think I'm asexual, which I suppose is also sort of true. And I haven't told my parents or brother, which is really just me being irrationally unable to initiate conversations.

I make it pretty clear that I'm queer. I dress like a guy. It's one less thing I have to verbally explain to everybody.

As it was said at the start - I'm out, but don't shout about it (I'm Bi-sexual just in case I say anything that causes confusion). If someone was to ask me straight I'd tell them, straight. Although it's more fun people ask "are you gay?" to tell them "no". Most of them have been speculating about it prior to asking (mainly in work) so I feel like having my own fun with that one

The other up side is actually hearing people's ignorance on the matter not thinking that anyone around them isn't straight, I don't say anything in protest, I just know if the time comes that information will definitely sway any decision regarding them.

<---- transgender/genderqueer and demisexual.

I like to joke to myself that I'm in 3 different closets: sexual orientation/gender identity, the aspie closet, and the secret "used to believe in God but now I'm an atheist" closet.

The only people who know about the gender identity/sexual orientation stuff are people here and my women's studies class. It would just take too much explaining. I'm female and my partner is male, so I can't see any situation where my "deviance" would be relevant. *shrug* I sometimes wish there was a way to tell people where I wouldn't have to explain it, but I'm ok with how things are now.

i'm in a little closet out in the middle of the big woods.