I dont want to be Gay! help!

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Thank you guys for your advices, you are being very helpful in every way. I sit hear and try to realize every persons comment here, some say that I cant change my sexual orientation, I think it is quite true but I know for sure that my attraction for females is deep within me. Its just hid after incident, (And to answer the question what turned me on first time when I had sexual act with male, I say that I was a kid and didnt realize what was happening. He was 4 years older then me and when he told me I would be good I believed! It was weird 1st tim then I got used to and even liked seeing naked male body. That how it happened). I am pretty sure that I am Bi ! Its just one part of it is missing, the female part, and I want to return it ! If it was possible to hide it deep in my mind, I am sure, and I'm willing to dig hard in my mind and retrieve it !

Some of you say that no person can change orientation, so I made a decision : If, after a long fight, I am able to return my interest to female (which is surely somewhere deep as i said previous time), I can bare living as Bi! I know it because I wasnt born Gay ! I just remember that much !

Though I am very very grateful for advices, sharing experience is greatest medicine for me. Or just making me see foul of my struggle against sexual orientation! But I know I sing in my life for sure: I will never stop fighting to retrieve my female attraction from my mind how old i may be! And Gay or Bi it will be always god to see good looking male I think I must live with this "weird" feeling until I meet someone who will truly love me and show me gay i am or not !

I had a lot of sexuality issues from the age of 14 onwards and there was a stage where I wondered if I was really gay and not realized it at that point as I had never had a real boyfriend until I was 26 which is pretty late for anyone to have their serious relationship, I also had strong crushes on not one girl but several girls at different times over the years and I had also had a brief relationship with a woman when I was 22 however as time went on and I realized that I wasn't gay nor was I straight I am bisexual and I have absolutely no problems with this.

All of this left me with a lot of heartache, confusing and anger as to why I was so "different" but at the end of the day the other posters are right, you can't change your sexual orientation once you truly realize who and what you are it's virtually impossible and you would doing yourself a lot of harm.

My suggestion is for you to speak with a LGBT friendly counsellor and go to a support group in your area for LGBT people.

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With all due respect what the f**k does this have to do with somebody wanting to change their sexual orientation??

S

Comparison. Very pointless comparison.

How do you figure?

Both are natural born states of being, and either can be something someone wouldn't want to be for whatever their reason.. so, IMO, they're very comparable. Also, it's kind of hard to know how DevilKisses meant their post to be interpreted. It could be a bit of a joke statement meant to say "too bad, you are what you are and can't change it - so what? deal with it," sort of thing.

What is that supposed to mean??

The poster said something that was totally off topic and irrelevant to what the thread was originally about and I wanted to know what her wish to be an NT (which I've seen in another thread) had to do with someone wanting to change their sexual orientation??

The post didn't make sense as it had nothing to do with the topic at hand.

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You have a very valid point however it was off topic....

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I wholeheartedly disagree.

Our bodies and our brains present us with circumstances with which we are forced to cope. Coping with being gay and coping with being an Aspie are not dissimilar, and the person who doesn't want to be gay might well be in precisely the same circumstances as the person who doesn't want to be an Aspie.

Who here can honestly claim never to have wished that they were dealt a better hand?

Fair statement.. and it reminds me of something that's made me laugh pretty good over the last several months since figuring out my own AS diagnosis: There have been specific times in my life in the past where I've literally wondered what it would be like to be autistic, and if I could take a pill to temporarily experience it I would.. well, turns out I already know what it's like to be on the spectrum in those particular scenarios!

Off topic, I know.

Now if only hot, straight men wondered what it would be like to be gay...

I agree that being gay and Aspie are not dissimilar in terms of coping and how they feel about those things, being gay and Aspie are both natural things that people are born with but the issues that come with being an Aspie are somewhat very different to the issues a gay person would have unless of course they're a gay Aspie then they may have issues from being Aspie and from being gay combined.

I will still stand what I said in terms of DevilKisses' post being off topic as it derails the thread as everyone is guilty of from time to time and in this case her not wanting to be an Aspie while similar in sentiment really has no relevance to the original poster's desire to change his sexual orientation, he/she probably couldn't care less if DevilKisses wishes she wasn't an Aspie as he/she is on here for support themselves for their own issues!

S

Only in regards to my diabetes and coeliac disease. I wouldn't want to change who I am.