Effeminate straight guys

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Although I'm a straight male, I feel feminine when I interact with females at times but I always masculine most of the time when I do traditional male stuff such as playing video games, shooting pool, and lifting weights when I have male company such as my male siblings and my father.

I happen to like females, and i have male genitalia,.. and i am currently wearing a bracelet, and have rainbow make up across my face,..and my eyes.
and my hair is down to my nipples.

so, yes i am an effeminate guy, But i am bisexual.

I once stood in line next to a chap in the local supermarket. Very handsome, he was very polite and submissive and had done himself up in women's make up, though he wasn't pretending to be a woman. He was a very feminine man. I fancied him.

Sorry, I know this thread is old, but I just came across it on a Google search of "how male and female brains differ". I just got through with 9 online tests of brain differences/does your brain think more male or female. Every single test I did came back with "female brained" although I Identify as androgynous. I like to think in my heart I am a girl and I went on estrogen and transitioned to full female minus SRS (sex change) (laser hair removal, etc) just to realize although I was happy as a female, I was always, ALWAYS wondering if I was being "read as a male to female". I live in Texas and you can polygraph me if you want to pay for it, but, I never had one negative comment to my face about being male-to-female, never harrassed, beat up, etc, Quite the opposite, I've had guys hit on me, ask me out, check me out, flirt, hold open doors for me, 'maam' me, buy me drinks, etc. Being so concerned if I was being 'read' and knowing my wife was not happy with my transition to female, I transitioned back physically and soon to be legally (change name and gender marker back to male). But I can't help BUT to me feminine even as a guy. There is metrosexual, then there is me. I cut my hair back to a typical military flattop/buzzcut, I use 3 different types of hair products which is probably redundant (hair wax, hair spray and a spray metallic shine), buff my nails and toenails to a shine, wear toerings and anklets, shave any little bit of hair I have on my body so it's smooth, get my eyebrows waxxed, wear androgynous cologne (CK-1/CK-B), I will at times wear a bra because I am a 38C/D naturally - hormones did give me a little extra booby. I usually wear loose hoodies to hide my breasts, sometimes I just dont care and flaunt them which provides me with serious stares as to why this male has big boobs. I went on testosterone shots 2 months ago to "butch" up for my wife. I'm frigging miserable. My face is now oily, pimply, I'm getting hair on my chest which is disgusting, thicker leg hair and the worst: Jesus, I now how a sex drive and erections. To you average normal males, you're saying: "so what? Yeah, and?" Understand me please, I find erections disgusting and male-like. Something I don't want happening to me. I should of been born a girl plain and simple. Correcting Gods mistake made me conscience of what people thought and sadly, it won out. I often think would I be happy as a guy with a vagina? i think that's where I'm at now. My wife can't stop me on that, it's my body. Besides, it's not like we have sex anyway. Hellllll to the no. Sorry for the ramble, sometimes I am so quiet, I just explode and need to get all my thoughts out at one time.

Mikki

I hope you are happy and remain happy.

I am definitely happy - now for the most part.

I am disappointed I wasn't born a girl, but I try to deal with it. I was happy as a girl after transitioning but always worried: "Was I being read as 'transgendered'" by the world was enough to send me back to manhood LOL.

Plus, my wife loves me to death either way, male or female. I never hid my gender issues from her, and she accepted that, but I know she was happier with me as a guy. Besides with my body and brains being half male and half female, like she said:

"I have the perfect husband... one who loves girl things, understands my brain and female issues, truly gives me an honest opinion when I ask 'how does this look' and is strong enough to kick someones ass if they tried to hurt me." LOL

Am i enfeminene?

well...

I'm biologically a man on the outside.
Slim posture, very thin wrists and ankles, just trying to grow my hair a bit longer lately, slightly higher than usual voice.

On the inside i'm a girl.

I tried for years to be more manly, but i'm not.
I've learned the manly-gorilla-walk, but my own walk is feminine (do girls walk that way? i do that automaticaly)
I've learned to shut emotions down, but i'm very emotional. (due to allmost 2 decades of constant neverending bullying )
I've learned to be coldhearted, but you've never meet a softy like me.
I've been afraid all my life about everything related to social things. even myself and what i feel.

Personaly i think i'm beyond enfeminine.
I think i'm TG.

Still unsure due to various fears. And still fighting with myself every single minute of every single day.

^^^
you have some good company here.

How funny, was going to reply (and obviously have) only to discover I said a similar thing 2 years ago.

Apart from what I already mentioned, that I like effeminate guys...something to add - I've been told by a few guys that I think like a man. Maybe it's the way I take everything apart and analyse it? One guy told me it was the way men spoke in turns, or something.

I'm not sure I'd say I'm either feminine or masculine, but then I guess it depends on how exactly you define them, or if only one very specific set of attributes can define either one. I guess I fit the nerdy geeky living in my mother's basement stereotype, and that does seem to be associated with males more, but it's not something I'd think of as masculine by itself.

I feel somewhat the same way.

*drags old topic thread out* I really don't understand why replying to old topics annoys people.

I think I can be effeminate, I've been mistaken for a girl before, and people often mistake me for one over the phone because of my voice. Personality wise I think I'm androgynous, I even took a few personality tests and got a strangely perfectly even androgynous scores on both (bsri and osri). Physically I'm thin, I don't think I have a macho posture or body language either. I actually notice myself doing things like crossing my legs and twirling my foot behind me when I lean on something (hard to describe) that seem more on the feminine side slightly. My wrists are so thin that men's watches don't fit me! Sometimes I actually think it would have been nice to have been born female, I almost feel like I could have been female in another life. Just to not have an underlying expectation on me of not showing much femininity would be nice.

As far as how I look I don't really express my effeminate side because I'm really shy and don't want people to judge me. For a brief time I shaved my legs as a teenager and loved it, but stopped because I didn't want to seem "weird". I think it would be nice to a wear a little bit of makeup and remove my body hair. I don't want to *be* a women as in being trans, I would ideally want to be sort of boyish and "pretty", well at least when I feel self confidant enough to look like that. This is the sort of look I like and just being able to look like a slightly more subtle version of that sometimes would be nice. Honestly that's sort of what I'd want in an idea girlfriend, someone who finds that side of me attractive and not weird. At the present I don't really look very masculine, but I don't look feminine either.

This whole thing has always made me question my sexuality, and for the longest time I pushed it away because I didn't want to be "gay". I've after all these years accepted that I am bisexual/pansexual (these terms are confusing), but I have a much narrower type of males that I like, and would prefer to be in a relationship with a female.