I see topics like this a lot
for me the single most important thing that attracts me to a womon is HONESTY I m sick and tired of being lied to or cheated (either in a relationship or by society in general)
I am pretty much concerned mostly with who she is, her personality and how we relate and that we have stuff in common - I am pretty left wing and an activist, Vegan and I require conversation and cuddling, if she can't be involved in any of that I don't care what she looks like or how she presents.
other than that I can be attracted to anything from pretty far femme to just about the most extreme butch.
My first girlfriend after coming out was so butch she would open doors for me and pull out chairs, pick out the movies we watched - pretty much everything
all the way to the one real long term relationship I ever really managed to have was with a pretty much femme, she stayed at home and drove a station wagon while I worked outside the home
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