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17 Aug 2015, 9:21 pm

I'm new to this forum, so something tells me I'm missing something. It's like they invented the internet just so people with Aspergers could meet online rather than relying on confusing, inefficient social interactions. Especially us gays where the dating pool is, statically speaking, smaller. And yet I can't seem to find an Aspie dating site. What gives? Or does it exist, it's right under my nose, and I just can't find it? Do we need to start one?



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17 Aug 2015, 9:45 pm

Uptowngeek wrote:
I'm new to this forum, so something tells me I'm missing something. It's like they invented the internet just so people with Aspergers could meet online rather than relying on confusing, inefficient social interactions. Especially us gays where the dating pool is, statically speaking, smaller. And yet I can't seem to find an Aspie dating site. What gives? Or does it exist, it's right under my nose, and I just can't find it? Do we need to start one?
Good idea. Maybe you could start one.



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17 Aug 2015, 10:00 pm

I will stick to "we" can start a dating site, as I want to be inclusive. Thanks.



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09 Oct 2015, 10:24 am

I'd sign up for it.



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09 Oct 2015, 11:55 am

It should be a thing, I believe there are sites like that out there. I thankfully met a man who would love me anyway, even being on the spectrum myself. I met him on a site where I had endless amounts of bad luck, literally.



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09 Oct 2015, 12:23 pm

I think there are a couple aspie dating sites, but they aren't very active or set up all that well from what I saw. I myself just used okcupid and have met someone pretty cool through there. On a site like that there is the option to set your preferences to gay or straight and you can mention the aspergers if you want in your about me sections...but of course its for people of all sorts. I didn't really include much about the aspergers since I don't like people having preconceived notions about me which could interfere with my first impression.

You could always try and start your own gay aspie dating site...then again might make more sense to just create an aspie dating site where you can set your preference to straight or gay just since on average there are less people on the spectrum and less gay people than the general population so having a specifically gay and aspie dating site might not get very active....but you never know I guess. Or maybe instead of specifying aspergers it could just be for the 'neurodiverse' or neurodiverse gay people.


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09 Oct 2015, 12:39 pm

thatsrobrageous wrote:
It should be a thing, I believe there are sites like that out there. I thankfully met a man who would love me anyway, even being on the spectrum myself. I met him on a site where I had endless amounts of bad luck, literally.


Same kind of thing that happened with me...and yeah my boyfriend doesn't even think I seem all that 'weird', I think we may have talked of the asperger's and how he didn't even suspect that but I also imagine he is not as knowledgeable about it as me so doesn't know there's a lot of variation in severity and I'd probably be less severe. If anything he likes some of my interesting traits...but yeah i couldn't say if he's neurotypical or not very well could be but he's certainly not like your normal fitting into society type.


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10 Oct 2015, 11:45 pm

Way too niche & specific to be of any real use, IMO.

Better off just making personal ad posts on local dating sites, profiles on other sites, using phone apps etc & chatting with tons of people until you find someone you click with and want to meet/date.


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11 Oct 2015, 5:16 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
I think there are a couple aspie dating sites, but they aren't very active or set up all that well from what I saw. I myself just used okcupid and have met someone pretty cool through there.

My experience of dating sites is that they generally suck.
OKC sucks the least since it has some ability to search based on criteria I care about.



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26 Oct 2015, 8:49 pm

gay aspie here! (f) only 14



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26 Oct 2015, 11:42 pm

I would definitely love to be a part of something like this, I feel like I have a lot of love to give, I just haven't found the right person in my area.


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09 Nov 2015, 8:45 pm

Niche dating sites will never have enough activity for anyone you want to date to live anywhere near you, so they are pretty much useless. I think you would have more luck using an autism forum like this to find someone than you would elsewhere, plus WP is free.



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29 Jan 2016, 2:45 pm

Hi, I've just started a new aspie site which is extremely gender friendly. So gays are absolutely welcome too.