What is your sexual orientation or gender

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I consider myself to be heterosexual even tho I did have some sexual experiences with a close male friend in my teen years. (Interestingly, he and I both later got married (to women) and we are still good friends. We live in the same city 100 miles or so from where we grew up and get together for lunch often.)

Regarding gender tho, I am somewhere between m and f. I used to call my self androgenous but am now coming to appreciate the term gender fluid. When I need to do carpentry work or chainsaw work or cut hay on my farm tractor, I can do that. I can also cook, sew, vacuum, and grocery shop when those need to be done. If you look at my style of dress, day-to-day around the house I'm usually in t-shirts and shorts, or sweats and jeans in colder weather. I also consider myself transgendered since I express my feminine side thru crossdressing when I can. I have even used my sewing skills to make some skirts, blouses, even suits so that they fit properly.

So, I am a heterosexual whose gender is wide-ranging.

Mostly straight man

im bi/pan

I live a female hetero lifestyle and am married to straight man but I have also been attracted to women as long as I can remember. Had many fleeting romances with men before current relationship but always struck out with women. I just can't connect to them on their level, too complicated for me. I am female on the outside but I have been told my brain works like a man's. I think that has more to do with me not being very emotional, which is considered a stereotypical female quality.

I am female and am either lesbian or bi, I haven't really worked out which yet, also may be somewhere on the ace spectrum.... yup nothing confusing here....

in ain't got none o' the fancy words, but anybody reasonably fit and sexy awakens my willie.

I think the gender, and even the mind, are ideas which our minds have discovered. The discovery tough has no objective standpoint. It can never truly look on itself, or measure it with machines. In most actions and activities what i am with regard to gender is not important. It seems in fact it takes an inordinate amount of effort to promote oneself as being a particular sexuality or gender, and less effort to not do. Think of the effort society makes to advertise how they wish to, or think they wish to be seen with regard to gender/sexuality, and also the discrimination that people can suffer if they fall foul of the rules. In a way which animals might display themselves for mating purposes, human culture has a whole menagerie of displays to convince people they are something. A bit like the phrase the lady protests too much, the various displays from people seems like they are trying too hard to cover up something which for the most part is not real.

I'm a bisexual female. I kinda wish I was a boy but hey what can ya do. MTF tends to work out good, but with FTM, it's too weird. You can chop stuff off, but you can't grow stuff in, ya know? Nothing against the FTM folks of the world.

I'm bisexual. This one took me years to figure out thanks to my need to be either straight or lesbian. I questioned being asexual too. Can you believe that?

I'm also a female. It took me a very good time to figure this one out and I happen to be cisgender. I used to think I was genderless in mind,but I figured out I was wrong soon enough. I'm not very stfeminine, but I identify as a feminine woman anyway.

bi female

Born female, but desires to dress as masculine in clothing,
Isn't into make-up, polished nails, jewelry
Just likes being themself

It's more about the person than their gender for me. I guess it could be called 'bi' or 'pan' or whatever.
I'm mostly attracted to feminine, but I'm starting to be more honest with myself about how some "manly" men kinda do it for me. It's more about how we connect and how they are as a person.

But if it's just for some 'adult entertainment' then all kinds of things can make me 'happy down there'.

My gender.
Have been publically male my whole life.
But inside female, I have only been 'half-out' to my family as a tran-female for a year and a half.

I have no social life or any kind of emotional supports, so I live a very isolated life.
My cat is my only friend.

I am in gender limbo. Tired of being male, too afraid to come out all the way and fully transition to female.
I don't want to go out and make new friends as a male, I'm afraid if I do that, I will continue to be trapped socially by this male identity. So I stay isolated. I'd like to make some tran-friendly friends who can help me be more comfortable coming out.

It's too scary to do all isolated and alone.

I don't even have any kind of therapist to talk to.


I've tried to tell myself that I don't need someone else to be happy, and just be comfortable with my perpetual singleness.
But I am human, and my heart is starving.


(sigh).... some of us are denied romance in life

do not despair, you at least are not alone in these things although it feels like it. there are thousands here in your boat or a similar boat. at least there is company for our misery.

I don't think I can ever go to bed with a man. I've had that unfortunate experience.

I often think of myself as a boy and a girl at the same time (even though I'm leaning toward the girl side). Still, though, I'm romantically interested in girls, and I don't really like guys that much.

So you can say that I'm a heterosexual androgynous, perhaps....?

Of course, these days. I am kinda confused as to who I'm looking for.

Frequently, I find myself watching a TV show or movie, I find both 'sexy'.
Sometimes bisexuality pulls one in opposite directions.

But really, I just plain can't handle being in a relationship with anyone.
I have found I have a tendency to push away which frustrates anyone I'm involved with.
I do need a lot of personal time and space. A lot of people take that the wrong way.


I also live with my retired father, so that puts a huge damper on the love life. Many can understand how it's just plain awkward to bring someone home when a parent is there, even if you are grown. And it's going to be a sad day when that situation changes. He's getting old, and never remarried, I do not want him living alone.

But socially, he takes over conversations. So if I have any friends visit, he takes over and I end up a 5th wheel.

I may have gotten off topic here.
Orientation questions leads to one's relationship status, which leads to discussion of obstacles in changing an undesired
status, and a person stuck without the social resources needed for a gender reassignment. It's a tough thing to do with no friends at all. One needs emotional supports for such a major life change.

My lack of local, physical world friends stands in the way of my gender transition, which in itself complicates the **** out my romantic outlook.

I can't seem to answer a simple question with one line.
I end up writing a book.