I don't WANT a boyfriend

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Not every AFAB person out there wants a cis boyfriend...

Yes, I'm technically bi. But in the real world, there aren't guys out there who I fancy or like to look at in the street.

I'm tired of being on here and it being assumed I'm a cis het woman. I don't want to look pretty, I don't want a boyfriend who looks buff. I want a pretty girlfriend, I want to look handsome. Although I'd settle for 'just average' re my own looks.

And it's not a political statement either. Not unless chasing girls when you're 11 and in a school that teaches section 28 propaganda counts as political statement rather than something natural. I've always thought guys and girls are hot but girls are mostly hot (even irl where they don't look like Taylor Swift) whereas a few famous guys are hot too.

I've had boyfriends cos I've felt afraid to say no to cis men who were taller than me and cos I've felt societal pressure to be 'normal'. I wasn't attracted to them. But 5 years ago, I decided to live for myself. This includes only getting into relationships where it's not out of fear or societal pressure but mutual pleasure on both sides between me and a partner.

That means I'm staying single. Unless the right woman comes along.

I hope that you can live your best life and pursue the types of partners that you are interested in. I can't empathise with being approached to date, but staying single sure is, I am trying to get past my own hang ups, but I think that it can be important to be more assertive. It is important to put yourself out there to the kinds of people that you are interested in.

I put myself up as bi on a dating app, and used it a bit sparingly, I get really anxious at the idea of swiping as to show I am interested, whether that might bother someone. And with guys especially I do understand that I have some internalised homophobia still, where I am trying to figure out what I like after being so long closeted. But I do suspect that being more sure about what you are interested in can regardless boost confidence in the area.

I love your post.

Don't get me wrong, I understand the frustration and I don't love that. I'm non binary, but I don't go out of my way to look androgynous or anything. My gender identity isn't wrapped up in gender stereotypes is all. I digress a bit. Point is, im afab, and I get annoyed when people assume I'm some cis het girl because I'm not. Yeah, I've been with some men over the years, doesn't mean I've haven't been with some women either. Unfortunately a lot of people just assume everyone is straight. It's weird.

Congrats on living life for you, on your terms, your wants.

being assumed "cishet" is especially a way of life when you come from a religious family and background. Though it is tiresome and feels like a huge compromise like putting on a mask <,<

If you don't want a boyfriend, then don't have a boyfriend. Simple!

(I do not intend to be rude. Just say "No" if a man asks you. (It is a whole lot harder to get a boyfriend then it is to say no to a potential boyfriend)).

If anybody tries, just tell them your not emotionally or mentally ready for that. Or straight up tell them how special you are and ur gonna need a genuine relationship and not a fling or casual dating

Eventually, ppl learn how you expect to be treated. And then the right ppl will find u. Stand you ground and dont put up with no BS. Lol
U deserve happiness
And not all men are bad

Bisexuality is curious for me? most bisexual women say they are bisexual but end up only dating women?

I understand the preference thing, and I also understand than invariably more men will approach a bisexual woman than women.

I also find bisexual women are often incredibly attractive to men (a few that come to mind are the singer Halsey, Drew Barrymore, Bella Thorne, Amber heard, Angelina Jolie and Megan Fox).

Does anyone know the percentage of Bi people in the adult population?

I know a few men who identify as heterosexual but are in an emotional relationship with a man....

Its just what needs u get from who...and everyones different ...

Lol just my opinion.