How to know if you're gay or straight?

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i'm 15 and i've known i was a different since i was like 6 or 7 and now im just more and more confused like is it a phase? is it going to go away? does the fact that i am not sexually or emotionallyt attracted to a guy at alll in any possible way, i mean i think about sex ofcourse but just with girls but not like fantasicing or anything like i want to be in love with a girl have a relationship with her sex is just well comes with the package u knw. my head is rly alll over the place anybody can help ?!

When I was your age, I had an extremely hard time figuring out my sexual orientation. I was in the same boat as you, I think. When I saw an attractive male, I felt something, but I had no interest in pursuing a sexual relationship with a man. I found women to be easier, and even fell in love with my best friend, a fellow Aspie. I thought for a long time I was meant to be a boy, but as I got older, I became more comfortable in my body and myself.

We're still together, but, funnily enough, we both identify as asexual. You're young, and I know it may seem like a huge deal right now, but as you get older, you learn more about yourself, and what you want and need and what is a temporary fancy, and what is more permanent.

Getting to know yourself as you age will clear some things up for you, I think. The next few years will help you decide.

Why on earth do people need labels?

My sexuality is all over the place and always has been. I could say I'm confused and be upset about it, but instead I will just enjoy the ride.

I'm sexually attracted to both men and women, but something about my autistic approach to relationships makes dating women disastrous.

I'm seeing a wonderful guy right now and things are less emotionally draining. Am I gay? Straight? Bi? Labels are for soup cans. I'm just with a great guy right now that makes me really, really happy. I haven't been this happy in awhile (and this is the first guy I've dated) so maybe I'm gay. Who knows?

Anyway, I get those butterflies in my stomach when I see him and I thought I was immune to those feelings.

So right now I'm enjoying some wonderful feelings towards a person of the same gender, but I still don't see the need to label myself.

The only way to know is to meet everybody on the planet, until then, you're bisexual or asexual.