Could I be asexual cause I never want to date anyone?

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I honestly have no idea if I'm asexual but I know I never want to date anyone. I'm around 40 and never had a meaningful relationship and I never want to be in one at all now or in the future. Does that make me asexual?

Do you feel sexual attraction towards people?

If not, then you are certainly asexual.

There are degrees of asexuality.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

When you don't want dating with anyone and don't need this (you feel it) - it's called aromantic. Asexual - it's when you don't want any sexual "activity" and sexual attraction towards people.

Maybe you're aromantic?

It's possible to be both aromantic and asexual, of course. Some people are just one or the other, and some are both.

It really depends on WHY you don't want to date. If its the actual dating part you don't like, that doesn't make you asexual.

My brother is asexual/aromatic but I wonder if it's because he's scared of getting his heart broken. He's the sort who doesn't deal with any sort of failure or rejection, due to his severe depression and lack of self-esteem. But he seems happy with not dating, so maybe he is generally aromantic.

If you just enjoy being alone, then you might be a singlist.
If you don't like people, you might be aromantic(but that doesn't mean you know nothing about romance!).
If you like only yourself, you might be a narcissist(no offence~).
If you have no interest in making love with people, you might be asextual.
If you like only to make love with yourself, then care not what others say.
Mark this: what you think you are is way more important than what you really are.You can be all of the above.You can also be none.

I find having friends is easier than having a relationship.

There's is a Facebook page called "Asexuals 30 and Over"
for anyone 30+ who identify as asexual.

Here is the link for anyone who wants to join:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/277579996395801

My NT sister is openly asexual, but whenever our bigoted uncles visit, they begin by asking her if she has found herself a boyfriend, that asexuality isn't real (that she's making it all up, you get the idea) and that she is using her age (she is 35 to me being 32) to get out of wanting a boyfriend.

I do not feel any sexual or romantic attraction towards anyone, I instead have a platonic relationship with girls… but i like (not as in feel attracted, but think they’re good friends) boys and non-binary people…
What am I???

You could be demisexual, so you only feel sexual attraction once you have a deeper emotional connection with someone. Like after dating them for several weeks or months without having sex, and having some bonding experiences with them.

Or you could be both asexual and aromantic for various reasons.

I also identify as asexual, because I wasn't interested in a sexual or romantic relationship with anyone in the past 20 years. But I still find women attractive and have a sex drive. I just don't want sex with another person.

Reason is that I experienced sex without emotional connection as stressful waste of time, and romantic relationships with deeper emotional connection as a severe threat to my mental wellbeing. If I didn't experience that it's a threat, then I would likely be interested in a romantic relationship (with or without sex).

Also, I don't desire to have friends. I guess if one isn't interested in having friends, they're more likely also not interested in having a sexual/romantic relationship with anyone.

These are things so it's certainly possible. It's also possible that you either haven't met the right person or you're repressing it for some reason. I'm definitely saying that you're repressing it, but it does happen from time to time.

But, that being said, if you truly think that your life is what you like, then it likely doesn't much matter what the ultimate truth is. There are definite upsides to being single and childless.

I know the best choice for me is to never date anyone and I never want to look for "the right person". However, I know it's a good thing that dating makes other people happy. I'm OK with just having friends.

Sex is a biochemical/neurological reaction in the brain. People can become addicted to it in the same way as getting addicted to food, drugs or alcohol.

It also means you can live without it. If you want to experience it without having to approach somebody, masturbation is just as much fun.

I'm fine the way I am