Are you more open about your autism or your sexuality?

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For me, I'm a lot more open about having Asperger's than I am about being bisexual, because it's obvious to people that there's something different about me in how I act, so I tell them I have Asperger's so they don't just think I'm weird. But I don't possess any of the stereotypes of being on the LGBT spectrum, so I see no reason to disclose it to people lest they judge me for it.

I'm actually more open about being lesbian because I've had some time to ease people up to it. As far as autism goes, I have not been officially diagnosed, and right now it's only rumored that I have it, and I haven't been aware of the possibility for more than a month or so now, so if my social awkwardness comes up I'll mention to people that my wife and I are investigating the possibility that I might be autistic, but I'm still hesitant about saying anything to anybody.

I'm more open about being gay because I have known about it longer and have gotten used to coming out. I just recently (half a year ago) came to the conclusion that I have Asperger's, so it's a new challenge.

Being gay. But not out to everyone all the time everywhere - some people are just rude hateful bigoted people, sooo, since it's not glaringly obvious to most people that I'm gay I don't advertise it to some when it isn't relevant or may cause problems I don't feel like dealing with.

As for being on the spectrum, I have my symptoms quite well under control so it's not obvious to almost anyone that I'm on the spectrum. If I point out subtle things and educate people I could explain it to them, but I'd rather just blend in decently well and go about life. IF I were obviously on the spectrum, then disclosure might serve me well if I needed someone to cut me some slack or something. But I'm not, sooo, I tend to keep that to myself more than the being gay thing.

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I'm far more forthcoming about my aspies. I did a foray into online dating, and after getting many terrifying messages from people because I'm ace, I stopped telling people. I'm also bi/pan on the romantic end, but that doesn't seem to bother people as much. There's something about being ace that seems to make people think they either have to explain to me how I'm wrong and confused, or even essentially threaten to "show me better" which I'm sure you get the implication.

Can't say I'm particularly open about either really. They are both things which I tend to keep to myself.

I am not hugely open on either subject (or any subject really) but I'm more likely to mention autism, because it is a big problem for me when interacting. If I am going to be interacting with the person regularly or at more than a superficial level, I have sometimes mentioned it before they think anything worse of me.
I find people much more accepting of autism than my brand of queer anyway, and mentioning my sexual preference just makes them leap to all kinds of binary conclusions about what I "really" am.
I will talk about it as a topic to other queer people or those genuinely interested, but still won't do the yes-but-what-are-you-really thing.

I voted that I'd reveal my autism more than the fact I'm gay. Sometimes I mention having autism just to explain why I may be a particular way or why I might have trouble with something. But I would only mention if I felt the other person would be understanding of it.

When it comes to stuff to do with my personal life/relationships, I am very private and don't really reveal a lot unless someone outright asks me. When I was with my ex I was attending CBT for anxiety and they would ask me questions about my personal life. I would say the words "partner" and "they" instead of "girlfriend" or "she". I just don't necessarily think it's anyone's business unless I want to reveal it.

But with both you never really know how people will react. Some people are very accepting, and some don't have a clue or are outright bigots.

Thinking about it, I probably mention my homosexuality more. I think a lot of people treat you differently when they find you have Autism/AS, whereas they don't if they find out you are homosexual.

I'm not obviously either i don't think, so i don't get any spontaneous questions about it. And as well as being very private in general, I rarely initiate interaction unless for a specific purpose so it just simply doesn't come up. I don't really have a need to tell anyone either aspect. In fact there are even plenty of gay people i've seen at work, none of them know because they are not my type. My aspieness has caused problems at work, but i'd rather avoid saying it until necessary.

Oddly enough, it's kinda mixed between both.

Online, I'm open about both.
But in real life, I'm more open about autism. Probably because it's something I can't really hide (some people can kinda tell I have it due to my mannerisms), whereas it's easier to hide my homosexuality.

It depends on the person and my relationship to that person. I'm generally more open about my ASD. Especially with my family. I haven't really told any of them about being gay.

My parents wouldn't care, and I suspect they already know, but I don't see it as their business, and I don't have a close relationship with them anyway.

People make more inaccurate assumptions when they know I'm bisexual than when they know I'm autistic.

I would say that I am pretty outspoken about both my neuro diversity and my sexual orientation. I am thirty six years old and I have never been married or had children. I live in a rural area and there is a noticeable reaction when people find out that I am not (and never was) married. I know that they are wondering if I am gay. I am bisexual but I get the distinct feeling that people in my area would find it unacceptable if I were open about it. Nowadays, I refrain from sexual activity all together, masturbation included. I have nerve damage from multiple sclerosis and experience burning pains throughout the left side of my body after I cum. I still enjoy talking and joking about sex though.
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