Gay Aspergers !

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Hello.

Looks like you are the second recent poster on here from Vancouver.

For some reason I have a lot of online friends from BC. One of my closest friends (who I've never met) is from Victoria.

how do you know he's from Vancouver?

I've been looking for a meeting group to make friends in Vancouver.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt63002.html

I misread the date when I saw that, I thought it was 2009 and not 2008, so I guess it's possible that he's moved since then, but probably not.

am i the only one that wonders why there isnt a gay aspie website?

I think it's because we're a minority in a minority.
The people that have responded to this thread will probably be the majority of gay aspies on here I suppose.

There might be some quiet ones or "in-denial" ones.

well yeah a minority within a minority but no mone in the worlds made one?

say maybe 5 to 10% of aspies, surely that would give enough of a user base to make worthwhile?

I think this thread is pretty good for an e-socializing place for Homo aspies. hehehhe

but just what kind of a website are you talking about? There's a dating site for aspies in general but it's rated PG. Are you talking about something naughty? I'd like a naughty dating website for gay aspies. nehehehehehe

lol no that really wasnt what i was thinking

I also like naughty. I don't think a real relationship can bloom out of two suitcase liberals meeting at a bar near the financial district to innocently "date". I think people need to know what a person likes and who he is beneath.

I hate the modern "vanilla" dating but I don't think people should necessarily walk around dressed up in a fetisch masquerade either. I just think the guys meeting at the restaurant must meet without just the shallow, social expectations.

The internet is useful imo. People can talk about their innermost desires, then meet and go all out on the first date. After that a real relationship can form. I don't believe in the innocent approach. To get close to someone you must tear down barriers, not hide behind them.

this thread, MY THREAD, had died, but thank you to whoever brought it back!

I am from the UK!!

gay (or bi still trying to figure it out) and aspie here....do u guys think its harder being a gay aspie than a straight aspie or easier in some ways?

I'd say harder, because some of the gay scene can be very bitchy and you'd be singled out if you don't fit in... that said if you meet a nice guy, then well there should be no issue, and i guess it'd be the same as a straight relationship!

hello Josh from New York. greetings from Canada. wink, wink I have psychic powers.

To a certain extent, yes it might be harder to find a good mate - on a probability scale, there are much fewer gays than straights in the world, and there are fewer men than women.

There aren't that many web sites for people with AS to begin with, so to have one for such a tiny sub-group of us would seem unlikely. There's just not enough of an audience.

As far as I know just an AS site is as narrow as it gets. (Even this site has grown to encompass all ASDs.) I don't think there is a web site for older people with AS, or women with AS, or any other such group either.

For a while there was a member pushing to get an LGBT forum on this site, but he left the site. That is a bit different from a separate web site though.


Maybe. There may be those who do not come into the Love and Dating forum or who just don't feel the need to identify themselves as such, even if they're not closeted or in denial.


Someone may have made one and we just don't know about it because it wasn't successful.


Well hypothetically we are about 0.67% of the population, now that is millions of people, and yet there are not that many web sites for AS people to begin with. So I would say that either people with AS don't on the whole want to talk to others with AS, or it is an undeserved market to begin with, let alone niches within that market like gays.


It looks like Zoonic is responsible for starting off the most recent series of posts.


Harder.

I don't think it's easier to be a gay anything. Whatever you are I think being gay makes it harder.

I can only speak of my own experiences, but I'm gay and have been with my current girlfriend for 2 years today. She is officially NT, but shares a lot of Aspie traits. She is my 4th serious relationship, so somewhow I don't seem to struggle with meeting them, they just sort of come along, but my longest relationship was 7 years, so they don't necessarily last.
I haven't dated a man for 19 years (half a life ago) and probably wouldn't do again. Things have changed a lot for the better in recent years, but we still have a long way to go for full aceptance.