How does it feel like being gay?

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It feels Faabbbbbulousssssssss. *high pitch squealy voice*. Life is funner, we dress up in flamboyant clothing like Librace, and we dance to Sambi De Sol.

Actually I'm strongly thinking of embracing my gay side (I'm bisexual), because I seem to be pleasing gay men. Like this black man who looked at me fondly, at Davie Street in Vancouver.... And I do like the metero lifestyle, of looking Fabbbbbuloussss. I visited hong kong, you see all these young business men and women strutting around as if they were catwalking, with a fierce determined "Blue Steel" (Zoolander stare), look.

For the last 30 years I have been good friends with a gay guy.

I like his wit and charm and we have interests in common.

During that time I have repeatedly told him that I will never have sex with him. EVER.

He understands that which frees us up to be "good friends".

hey guys..
hey kiwi.. you have quoted me and you have questions; are they addressed for me specifically to answer too? the questions kinda requires a lot of answers.. hehe..

It's pretty simple I suppose to explain how it feels to be gay. I am a lesbian. If the only question is literally how you feel inside then the answer is exactly the same way you feel being straight. I feel the same for my girlfriend as I'm sure any man/woman feels about their partner. I don't look at her everyday and go wow I love her lesbian style as I'm sure straight people don't walk around going wow I love him/her straight style.

If the question includes how I feel everyday about being gay then it varies. I would assume this answer also varies amongst all humans on how they feel about themselves. I often feel probablly more fear than most that the look I got in a store while sliding my hand on my partners lower back is somehow an angry misunderstood look from someone who cares to be violent on their beliefs of how it is or isn't right. I do often feel as though I got the raw end of the deal being aspies especially...I often joke that if only I was born a minority race I would have all aspects of an outcast down pat except then I would at least get a scholarship over it. I sometimes wonder what made me gay wether it be genetic or something that happened along the way.

So as far as what makes one gay well if you find the 100% correct answer to that one in this post, you will have answered one of many controversial questions on the minds of millions with nothing better to do but wonder which came first the chicken or the egg.

I can however assure you that you do not wake up one morning and decide that straight just doesn't match these shoes and thus change your sexual preference. Next time you wonder why someone is the way they are the answers are as easy as figuring out why you aren't the way they are.

give it an answer NcNbl

cheers

gotta love strutting

Why is once not enough?

LOL, gays guys don't want sex with EVERY man.

Where does that come from?

There seems to be this extremely common idea among straight guys that all you need to do is "turn gay" (as if that were actually possible) and you would get all the sex you could possibly handle.

Some of even the most "aesthetically challenged" guys think that they are total gay magnets.

Can't possibly be true...

I know.
I don't think women think the same about lesbians?
It's a weird thing to think - I never understood it either.

Being queer? It's like being straight, except you're excluded from various social institutions by heteronormative societal constructs, you risk being exposed to violence, ostracism and hatred for expressing who you are, you consistently get portrayed as scary, marginal, radical and dangerous by a significant portion of society, you're portrayed as trivial, mindless, funny or strange even by people who supposedly like you, you're victimized by sexist thinking regardless of your gender, you struggle with self-hatred your entire life long, and you have to put up with the self-destructive and petty internal struggles of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer etc. (LGBTQ*) community.

For a long time, it was fashionable to contend that bisexuality was "fictional;" butch-femme dynamics were condemned, especially in the lesbian community, for a decade or two; radical lesbian feminists found it in themselves to hate on gay men, kinky folks and transgender people; gay, lesbian and bi folks still frequently hate on and exclude transgender people, and many trans people argue amongst themselves about the right way to be trans and to conceptualize the trans experience, including naming their way of thinking as the "right way" and condemning other trans folks as "not truly trans"; more conservative and "straight-seeming" masculine gay men hate on more feminine or gay-reading men; the big, money-sucking LGBTQ* organizations funnel all their money towards conservative measures that benefit white gay men over everyone else, the wheels of injustice keep turning, the mentally defective nutjobs in the churches, in the legislature and on TV keep pumping our culture full of shame, hate, fear, rage and ignorance, and meanwhile, queer kids in isolation, subject to bullying and violence, are killing themselves just as they always have - only the media decided to pay attention to it for once, because they needed something new to scream about.

Oh, being queer is great fun. You should try it some time!

well.. romantic relationships entails intimacy & sex but it doesnt mean its only about sex just like in straight relationships too. a relationship does not actually need to be sexual but it is naturally a part of it, because relationship is sharing of one's emotions and self to another and a big part of that is intimacy; and sex is also an expression of such feelings - love making. and in sharing one's self, part of that "self" is sexuality. so in that relationship you share your sexuality to each other too. it is the persons involved who would require the act of sex not the relationship per se. and sex is not the reason why you'd get into a loving or romantic relationship or why you are attracted to someone, though it could be a part of it. there's much more to a relationship or being attracted to someone you want to be involved with than just sex.

as for sexuality; some are born that way, some are influenced by many factors in their environment or nature, or by people and events in their lives as to why they would have a certain kind of preference, or the change or addition to it. my case for example, i had girlfriends and i was never this attracted or interested with a guy. its actually my first time to be romantically interested with a guy. i may have my bisexual tendencies because, i am very open minded and open hearted to anyone but its only now that another male had captured my interest romantically.

for my interest; first, of course, i was attracted because he looks great, he looks like an angel. he's an aspie btw, as i get to know him then there were tons about him that strongly appeals to me a lot. i admire a lot about him. there are many great things about him that i was looking for in a person even in myself but can't find and i even found many other great things which i wasn't looking for. he's pretty exceptional. i was even intimidated and insecure but he was very nice, sweet and charming and i have come to love the person that he is to me and simply is. and he inspires me a lot, i appreciate how and who i am being somewhat with him and because of him. i care and respect a great deal about him. and i like how i feel when he's around and i don't like how i feel when he's not. he made me care or basically you could say he brings out the best in me. its just like any attraction or interest in any other relationships except we are open to feel or we allow ourselves to feel this way to someone different than the usual. and anyway all of these things i have and found in him that interest me is just so appealing that it would transcend gender or anything else.

and being in whatever relationship we have ever since; we have a relationship but it doesn't require sex to be in it, and my interest or attraction is not about that, but about the person that he is and the person he is to me and the person or way that i am because of him. the interest and/or relationship i or we have is sharing ourselves to each other which we both admire. i hope i made that understandable..

so.. i think that's my answer to you kiwi and i hope it gives you and the OP of this thread a good insight.

No relationship of any kind has to involve sex - some people are just asexual, and that's fine. That applies for people who identify as gay, straight, pansexual, bi, queer, dyke... whatever.

It has been observed that same-sex relationships occur in all species. These are "normal" relationships; they simply do not happen with the same frequency as opposite-sex relationships.

The "romantic swans Romeo and Juliet" in Boston Garden are actually "Juliet and Juliet".

I respectfully suggest you research this more before repeating this statement again; you sound too intelligent to have made such a flippant remark that is, ultimately, false.

I don't know if this is Aspie blindness or SWM ego. For 30 years you have either led this person on (straight women who do this are called a c*cktease) or you have been experiencing SMS (straight-male syndrome). Why don't you tell him about your post and see if he takes offense to your post (like I did) and if he views this relationship in the same light.