Do you like or get along w/ LGBT (as in any) better?

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They may be superficial too--I don't know. I'm just quite quiet and intense, so such flamboyance isn't quite my cup of tea. Nothing wrong with it, just not something I like.

Yeah I know they can be superficial too. I can understand where you're coming from on the flamboyance.

No

As someone who's gay and definitely not an NT, I can honestly say that the whole pride culture kind of repulses me since I'm not one to be too expressive of myself. I mean, the only friends I have who are LGBT are ones I met online in a game with people who I presume are 50 - 50 ASD and 100% maladjusted (It was fun though when I still loved to play it). It's probably the whole "in your face" dynamic that makes me incompatible with most NT LGBT, I mean the ones who I'm friends with are a bit more introspective than the seemingly average extroverted sort.

Then again, I don't necessarily immerse myself within that culture so I don't really know how most gay men and women act, all I can rely on (truly) are the stereotypes that I've made based on my interactions with them.

Yes, actually, I've done the math, and about 25% of my friends are. I think it's partially just due to the "Outcast segment" of the population of the school, and also that their nicer.

Not really. Usually the attractive ones are full of themselves. Lesbians just hate me for some damn reason.

I think it's a little easier for me to be (close) friends with lgbt people. I can't tell the exact reason for that. Maybe it's just that the lgbt people (at least not the ones I have met) don't usually expect you to have a certain kind of life (for example that you should get married and have children at a certain age). Of course there are straight people too who are open for different choices and don't expect you to live your life in a traditional, heteronormative way. (And there are also lgbt people you have nothing in common with so it's not easy to make friends with them in the first place.) But still, when it comes to conversations about one's crushes and love life it's much easier to talk with an lgbt friend than a straight friend (well, straight guys may sometimes be an exception).

I personally find that I do get on with LGBTQ people a bit better than some straight people, but that is more simply due them being different from the generally norm. Any sort of harmless, at least to other people, deviance from the norm makes a person more interesting to me, especially since so many teenagers act like obnoxious copy-pasted clones of each other with slightly different hair.

I think most aspies are going to feel awkward socialising with the sexual group they identify with.

I always feel awkward around other bi women because a lot of them are very alt.feminine and into stuff like burlesque and pole dancing. Makes me feel kind of like a gender failure. I'm just massively nerdy and have some old-man mannerisms and habits (I have the whole beer and darts thing going on). I feel like I have more in common with lesbians, but not much more. I feel less pressure to be feminine around them than I do around bi girls. I usually get some kind of biphobia when they find out I like men, however.

I don't generally care what sexuality people are, though - as long as they're not abusive a***holes. I don't like to be around homophobic people for obvious reasons, as well.

That said, when I was at uni, I found it easier to socialise with the LGBT society because I find it easier to be around outsiders in general.

My only close friend is as straight as a striplight, though.

Yes & no. Yes, I get along well with my gay friend and gay acquaintances.. but better than with my hetero ones? Not sure. Maybe better in some ways, and not in others. Most of my friends are straight, and only my closest ones know my orientation. I haven't really picked my friends based on sexual orientation over the years. I've picked them based on who they are, not who they're attracted to. Although, I do feel anxious and weird around "scene," gays and fems/cds/flamboyant types - not my scene & not a really comfortable place to be for me. To each their own.

This makes a lot of sense.

That sounds familiar (if I could understand you with my inadequate English).

I can't say I know the "scene" (I mean the lesbian scene, or should I speak about community?) well. Still, when I have been around other lesbians, in a lesbian bunch (that hasn't happen very often, though), I usually haven't been feeling too comfortable. I'm not sure why. Maybe there is some sort of pressure to be more "lesbian", more masculine or something. To like same gay icons, same TV programs, movies etc. To have similar opinions about many things. I'm not very masculine but I'm not too feminine either. (I'm even not very androgynous.) I admit that I've watched The L Word and even liked it occasionally (in general, I prefer pop culture with LGBT stuff to pop culture without LGBT stuff) but I'm not the biggest fan of Shane. For some reason I think the gay male culture is more accepting, there are feminine types and then there are masculine types (in Finland they are called 'bears', I don't know if that's the case in the other parts of the world) and excessively masculine "Tom of Finland-types" (and probably some other types too).

Or maybe my problem is just that being in a group, in any kind of group, is a bit distressing for me. Sometimes even being with my family is too much (I have four siblings and relatively small childhood home). I like all my family members as individuals, though.

As a heterosexual man, I get along with all people with different orientations whether it be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual.
I may be a little bothered by their flamboyancies but I do my best to put my dislike for them aside and treat them as nicely because they're just people in the end. There was one tall gay student in college who I happened to have a slight dislking to because I sometimes think he's full of himself but I was wrong when we talked to each other and learned he's not a bad guy after all.

I think I get along best with other people in the spectrum. It's mostly a safety thing, but I also find most "straight" people I've met rather boring. *shrugs*

I'm a bit of a rebel in general though. I really hate the arbitrary norms in the world so I like anyone with the will to be different.