Is it normal to be *slightly* bisexual?

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It's these kind of answers of why I consider the definition of bisexual semantics.

I'll try to expand on why I would consider the viewpoint that the definition of bisexual is relative to each individuals. You got people who thinks that fluid sexuality is the case of one discovering his/her bisexuality when in reality someone who goes from straight to gay or from gay to straight actually do not feel as they belong in the past sexuality nor feel as they belong into the bisexual range because they don't actually feel attraction to both gender for a good period of time, hence they're not bisexual unless you define bisexual as had attractions to both gender. If I wanted to use the logic that people who went to straight to gay uses upon me as I have been through both and now I'm asexual, I cannot be asexual as I had experienced attraction to both genders despite that I don't feel any sexual attraction at all to both gender which goes against the more rationalistic logic. I am asexual now despite that I used to feel attraction to both gender. However, during some switches of sexuality I experienced, I had never felt s**t for the other gender after the switch is complete meaning I am not actually bisexual at that moment.

Oh, aesthentic attraction does exist and romantic orientation is separate from sexual orientation. One straight guy can appreciate another naked dude without feeling any sexual attraction at all just like a woman can admit another woman's boob looks great without being a lesbian. Some people just gotta learn. There's a reason why people should just avoid labels and I use labels for simplifications of my thoughts. I don't really consider myself straight, asexual, gay, bi as I see no point into adopting one.

I think I am "slightly" bisexual as well. I am married to a man, but am slightly attracted to women. I have never had a lesbian experience, but am attracted to lesbian scenes in porn. I also believe that if I have fallen in love with a woman before I met my husband, I would have married her instead.

There are grey areas for what could be considered bisexual or any other sexuality. Your example of someone who experiences a strong attraction one way or another but never at the same time could be considered bisexual, or it might be something else. The only way of knowing is talking to them, asking how they feel about themselves.

1) For some people, they know they are bisexual, they feel like they are capable of romantic/sexual attraction with both sexes, but they lean one way or another at any given time. It's not as strong as the programmed preference a straight or gay person might have though. It's not an overriding preference: just a temporarily greater interest in one type of mechanism for arousal that they know works for them.

2) For others, they never feel bisexual, but they do feel a change in their sexuality over time. This can happen. The human brain has a lot of plasticity. It's normal for people to develop new fetishes throughout their lives, or to become more interested in different parts of the body over time. It's normal for people to be attracted to their age group. If you think about it, a straight man might perceive zero change in his sexuality, but if he goes from being attracted to 14 year olds when he's 14, to being attracted to 30-year-olds when he's 30, the physiological difference in his ideal type of partner has changed quite a bit in that time.

There is enough plasticity there for someone who was attracted to certain parts of the female body to develop a greater interest in certain parts of the male body later on, and vice versa.


Right, so you would fall under the second category.


I don't see any utility in avoiding labels. Some people want a way to connect with other people who have had a similar experience, and to be able to make safe spaces to talk about their shared experience, and you cannot do that unless you find some way to categorize your experience.

If you don't fly your own flag, someone else will choose one for you, and they won't make it a nice one.

Slight bisexuality is absolutely normal, as well as more than slight...whether or not you ever wish to act upon those feelings is the only real question. I hate to break it down so simplistically, but the only thing I can compare it to really is eating. You may occasionally be tempted to sample a certain type of cuisine (say vegan) though you would never choose to eat that type of diet exclusively (while others certainly would)...and if you never actually tried it but just thought about it on occasion - that would be a-ok - your personal decision too.

I'm a slightly homosexual-leaning androgynous bisexual who is really 95% asexual.
Deal with it *shrugs*

Well, I was raised in a time and place where LGBTQ were openly harrassed and tormented, so socially was raised str8. But I had my first secret gay encounter at a very young age, so that forever colored the validity of identifying as such...

It wasn't until the Army I realized it wasn't just thinking pervy thoughts -- I really did enjoy sex with men, though not exclusively and not anywhere near as stereotypically raunchy as you can find on the internet. I considered myself then, about 80/20. Being a soldier and liking gay sex in the Bush I era was pretty risky though, so we were all str8 when asked, gay once out the post gate.

Today I say I'm about 60/40, though having no relationships for years now, doesn't really matter.

I don't know if it's normal but I like to think of orientation as being on a spectrum too - the more you read up on these things the more you realise gender stereotypes are stereotypically incorrect.

I'm only slightly bi I believe, mostly straight. I tend to find females hotter to look at, but sexually I'm way more into guys then girls.

I am *slightly* bisexual. Also, am Trans.

I find women kind of attractive. Thinking things like "Oh what a lovely curve to her tushie" or "She has a nice set of boobs" etc. I could MAYBE even love a woman, but as far as being sexually intimate, no. I hate the "lady parts" is basically it.

I know I am a 3 on the scale, and my sex drive is incredibly high. Just goes to show there are many different ways to get to the same place.

Going by the Kinsey scale, I'm a definite 6 and always have been. and I don't know if the term "sexuality" is necessarily appropriate, since I tend to feel equal parts sexual and emotional attraction to males.

I feel like the Kinsey scale doesn't apply to me. I don't really associate my thoughts, feelings, or actions as being "heterosexual" or "homosexual" in nature. I just kind of like people and enjoy affection. I've certainly been involved in a lot that has kind of blurred those lines as well. Really my very existence kind of blurs those lines with anyone who gets involved with me,

Your situation sounds just like mine, only opposite. Before puberty, I was basically bisexual. But once puberty hit, I became more and more attracted to women until men were really no longer an option for me.

Yeah. there are alot of people who are mostly straight but slighty bi. to me they are just bisexuals.

I disagree with this statement. Asexuality is determined differently, or at least I think so. I'm mostly bi (around 2.7) but am also mostly asexual.