Transgender Aspies

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Identify as FTM, still unsure if I have Aspergers.. I feel a lot of my Aspie-ish traits can also be attributed to being trans..?

Wish I could transition but due to societal issues re LGBT in my country, don't think I could do it until I retire in 30-40 years time and migrate elsewhere more open minded. Meh

I am genderqueer (somewhere between transwoman and 'none of the above') and was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. Yes, there is a LOT of overlap. Although I wonder how much is self-selecting (both are groups that use the internet more than the general population if they can) and how much is due to unknown factors.

I was born with an intersex condition and raised male. I identify as Gender Neutral, and I usually get dysphoric when my presentation drifts too far in either direction. I do enjoy getting pretty sometimes.

I was in a domestic partnership for many years with a possibly aspie (self diagnosed) transwoman.

There are a number of terms for this. Some prefer "bigender" and some prefer "twinspirited". There may be some others that I'm not familiar with. I can identify with it some ways.

I'm third gender, MAAB and I've considered transitioning to female gender presentation but I'm far too nervous for that right now. I'm afraid I'd never find a relationship, and that I wouldn't be very pretty as a woman. I'm not terribly hot as a guy either (I do ok) but I sorta work with what I've got, haha.

I much, much prefer female social roles and clothing/appearance to male. I don't really have any problem with my body right now, but the way people perceive it bugs me and frankly it'd be nice to have lady-parts. I wish I could change physical sex back and forth depending on my mood, but I almost always would prefer to dress/present in a feminine way. as a man I just dress to be as cheap and neutral as possible and hide the parts I'm insecure about.

I'm a trans man I guess. Raised female, now live as male.

Currently undiagnosed but I'm working on changing that.

I'm a male-to-female transsexual. Still coming to terms with it; which I'm not dealing with that well. Yesterday, I tried to kill myself twice and was sectioned as a result. On the upside, I'm being referred to a specialist psychotherapist, and I'm already a dab hand with make up. Which is obviously the most important thing...

I am close to Neutroisis or Agender. I don't really feel or identify as any gender but fall closer to that of a very effiminate crossdressing man but with female genitals. The downside of my existance is that i am what is considered a hot female. I wish I looked androyginous but alas i don't.

Hi guys/gals/others,

I am FtM, though I transitioned seven years ago and my gender isn't an issue to me any more. Actually, it's a long time since I've really thought about it (which of course was the idea, as pre-transition it was hard to think of anything else). Transitioning was the most difficult thing I have ever had to do, because I suffered from serious social anxiety alongside all the typical issues of someone with ASD, and coming out almost killed me. But it was worth it.

At the time of my transition I assumed all the difficulties I had encountered in my life were due to my gender dysphoria (and said as much to the doctors I saw about my transition). There is certainly overlap to be seen in the social difficulties these things present. After my transition eradicated my gender issues, I discovered there were other underlying problems going on, and after spending several more years working though things like my social anxiety and other emotional issues, I am left with a set of symptoms which look starkly like an ASD. It's a bit strange to find myself back in the position of needing to seek psychiatric help again.

Last time I saw my gender specialist, I remember noticing a poster on the wall of his waiting room advocating awareness about autism among trans people. I don't recall what it said in detail, but to the best of my memory it was about a study which had shown that autism was 20% more prevalent in trans people than in the normal population. Though I couldn't speculate as to why, the two conditions do seem to be linked in some way.

All the best to those of you who are starting out in your transition.

I'm a FAAB Aspie and consider myself genderqueer. (I'm also fine with the term non-binary.)

I'm OK with my body having breasts and a vagina. It doesn't bother me. In some ways my body is rather masculine. My voice broke when I was 12, and I've been singing tenor ever since. I am short, but very muscular and strong. I did consider taking male hormones, but at the moment I'm having to take progesterone hormones due to uterine fibriods and the resulting very heavy bleeding. (f**k you, body. Seriously, f**k you.) The only thing I wasn't OK with physically was the idea of pregnancy, which was extremely disturbing to me. Once I had my tubes tied, I felt much more comfortable in my own skin.

I tend to present in a masculine way in clothing, haircut, etc. However, everyone except my partner perceives me as a woman because of my tits. I absolutely refuse to bind, because of sensory issues. And there's no way I'm having top surgery. Why should I have to go through expensive and possibly dangerous surgery just because of how people perceive me? One of the gifts of being on the Spectrum is the freedom to not give a s**t about what other people think!

It's kind of like ... imagine you had a natural speech impediment that sounds like a British accent. People are constantly making incorrect assumptions about you. They talk about how they visited London once, or how much they like rugby, or think they have something in common with you because they come from Manchester. Would that threaten your sense of self? No. It might make you conclude that people are idiots, but whatever. That's pretty much how I feel about people seeing me as female.

From what I gather these are the "main" genders.

Binary:
Boy/Man (Male)
Girl/Woman (Female)

Non-binary:
Agender - Neither male nor female
Bigender - Both male and female; jointly or separately
Androgyne - Mixture of/in-between male and female
Trigender - Moving between agender, bigender and androgyne.

I would call you whatever you'd like to be called (most likely your name ) but my mind does tend to go towards bigender (and sometimes androgyne).

As for me, to my knowledge, my sex is female but my gender is non-binary (although, if someone insists on specifics, the term "trigender" seems to fit me best). I've come to terms with my body, in that I'm somewhat content and I don't ever plan to physically transition from this end of the spectrum to the other, but sometime in the future I would like a breast reduction. Other than that, I'm "fine" (even though I do wish I were born intersex). I tend to dress in an androgynous manner but I'm short, don't bind and have a more feminine build so most people do tend perceive me as female (and I'm okay with that but I do get kind of giddy when they call me masculine pronouns or ask me what my gender is. ).

On another note, I'm so used to feeling like the "odd" person, I wasn't aware that there are so many other people that are not only non-neurotypical but are also non-heterosexual and/or transgender/transsexual. Haha, feels weird not being completely "abnormal".

FtM (not yet transitioned) Diagnosed aspie at 5.

I feel like third gender and am frustrated with society because there's no "spot" for me. My doc says I was likely born intersex and my body IS very andro (I don't want to give specifics). Most people think I am a girl, but I am just really feminine. When I talk, people get very confused. It's another reason people just ignore me. I don't see myself as a boy wearing girls' clothes. I feel like a separate gender. I wear clothes meant for men and women. I have pants, button up shirts, gorgeous dresses - everything.

In ancient times, there were roles in society for third-gender people. I wish we had that today.

I'm unsure of you're situation in this comment. I don't mean to sound dopey, but if you hate being a male so strongly, why not work your way into being a woman? If you're that depressed and thinking of such as suicide, why not stop it by transitioning? Are you afraid?

I'm not sure what Kittylover's situation is but if she is currently dependent on her parents she would need their support to transition. That's a problem when they don't take you seriously.

I identify as FtM, but I'm not actually transitioning - loooong story. But thought I'd just say "hi" - I'm new to the forum, and was pleasantly surprised to find this little subforum here.