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Naylien
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31 Dec 2012, 6:47 pm

Ca2MgFe5Si8O22OH2 wrote:
that said, if you define the queer community as "anyone who isn't completely heteronormative" then sure, asexuals count. I personally see the community as primarily a function of resistance to political and social oppression, not a club for all outsiders, but I can see why some might argue asexuals are also queer. however if you argue asexuals are systematically oppressed to the same degree as the rest of us and you will either get an earful from me or a MAJOR eyeroll, depending on my mood.


From my understanding "queer" is the term for someone who is not heteronormative. So as you said, asexuals would fall in with LGBT. I've also been seeing LGBTQ and LGBTQ* appearing more and more often. I'm not a fan of the insanely long acronym; I feel queer covers the rest of the sexualities.



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01 Jan 2013, 12:36 am

IMHO, asexuals should be seen as not neccessarily a part of the LGBT as there are some asexuals who couldn't give a care about LGBT politics and nor they want to be associated with the LGBT. Some asexuals are connected for certain reasons.



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01 Jan 2013, 9:19 am

Ca2MgFe5Si8O22OH2 wrote:
..being asexual or demisexual or aromantic or whatever is basically never going to make you see institutional oppression or put you at risk of violence.

While asexuals have the advantage of being able to stay in the closet a lot more easily than most of the LGBT commnity, the ones who are 'out' can suffer from oppression. Watch the end of this video, especially from 14:30 onwards:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncoHJo5128Q[/youtube]
I'm not saying asexuals recieve the same amount of abuse as some of the LGBT community but it is there.

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"I only want to have sex with you after we develop a close romantic connection" is liable to make your parents proud and make your pastor call you virtuous.

True up to a point, especially for demisexuals. However for an asexual, or more especially an aromatic asexual it then becomes 'That wierdo who never has a girlfriend/boyfriend. What are they hiding?' In some ways it is more socially acceptable to be lesbian/gay etc than asexual.
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half the saints of the christian church were acting asexuals, or at least celibate.

There is a big difference between celibacy and asexuality. Asexuality is a lack of attraction. Celibacy or abstinence is repressing an attraction (most commonly for religious reasons).

As far as being part of the queer community is concerned, I think it depends on the individual. I think asexuals should be able to identify as queer. However many (including me up until fairly recently) are more likely to identify as straight. Let's face it some lesbians, gays, bisexuals, trans etc don't want anything to do with the LGBT* community either.


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