30 Apr 2016, 9:15 pm
30 Apr 2016, 9:43 pm
Yigeren wrote:
This is pretty interesting. I never really felt like I fit the female personality type. I don't feel male, either.
I took a test (which is no longer available) from the BBC website. I think it used different ways to see how the brain processed information, to decide whether one has a more "male" brain, or more "female." Mine was right in the middle. That feels about right to me.
I feel that my gender is female, I'm happy being female, and I'm mostly heterosexual. But my brain is really not very "girly," and I never did fit in with or understand typically feminine women. I liked hanging out with guys or less feminine women the most. I just find it odd that although my brain is more gender-neutral, I'm happy being female, and think of myself as being female. One would think that I would be androgynous and bisexual instead.
I took a test (which is no longer available) from the BBC website. I think it used different ways to see how the brain processed information, to decide whether one has a more "male" brain, or more "female." Mine was right in the middle. That feels about right to me.
I feel that my gender is female, I'm happy being female, and I'm mostly heterosexual. But my brain is really not very "girly," and I never did fit in with or understand typically feminine women. I liked hanging out with guys or less feminine women the most. I just find it odd that although my brain is more gender-neutral, I'm happy being female, and think of myself as being female. One would think that I would be androgynous and bisexual instead.
The various gendered traits don't necessarily have to coincide.
You are also perfect.
10 May 2016, 8:13 pm
06 May 2018, 9:38 am
DevilKisses wrote:
I feel very uncomfortable with the idea of being in a heterosexual relationship. I don't know if it's because I'm uncomfortable being with a man or uncomfortable being the woman.
I feel uncomfortable with the way people see me. People seem to be too soft and patronizing with me. Especially guys who flirt with me. I always feel like they're interacting with a very inaccurate mental projection.
It just makes me feel very disoriented and kind of sick to my stomach. I'm not much of a chameleon, but I start to act like my mental projection. I hate when I do that.
I also have a below average attraction to guys. Don't know if that means I have a bit of attraction or I'm simply not attracted to them. Things would be so easy if I could just be gay.
When I read about straight relationships I find it hard to believe I'm supposed to be the girl. It feels even more surreal when people give me dating advice meant for girls.
When I was a kid I had a phobia of being mistaken for male. I refused to cut my hair and only wore dresses to avoid being mistaken for male. I thought that if I had shorter hair or wore pants all my femininity would disappear.
I feel uncomfortable with the way people see me. People seem to be too soft and patronizing with me. Especially guys who flirt with me. I always feel like they're interacting with a very inaccurate mental projection.
It just makes me feel very disoriented and kind of sick to my stomach. I'm not much of a chameleon, but I start to act like my mental projection. I hate when I do that.
I also have a below average attraction to guys. Don't know if that means I have a bit of attraction or I'm simply not attracted to them. Things would be so easy if I could just be gay.
When I read about straight relationships I find it hard to believe I'm supposed to be the girl. It feels even more surreal when people give me dating advice meant for girls.
When I was a kid I had a phobia of being mistaken for male. I refused to cut my hair and only wore dresses to avoid being mistaken for male. I thought that if I had shorter hair or wore pants all my femininity would disappear.
It's probably because you are younger than 25:
https://hamsy2000.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/sexual-desire-differences-between-men-and-women/
"(...) When the average male reaches puberty his sexual interest is sparked and develops quite rapidly. By age 13 or 14 he is well on his way to reaching his peak in sexual interest. By age 18 he has reached that peak and remains there pretty consistently the rest of his life, declining only slightly, until about age 60.
The average female’s sexual desire develops more gradually. Sexual interest begins at puberty, like the male, but develops comparatively slowly until about age 18 then begins to develop a little more rapidly. She does not reach the same level of sexual interest of the average male until around age 25.
So, there is a gap or area of variance between the developmental experiences of males and females (see figure 1) where conflicts, pressures, and other divergent misconceptions about sex can be formed, particularly in females, that can be carried on and influence the rest of a person’s life and attitude toward sexual relations. The boy is fully developed and “ready to go,” so to speak, considerably earlier than the girl. He is also learning how to manage this new, and quite powerful, desire and may make some mistakes in the process. The girl, not yet at his level, may understandably develop habits of resistance if she is overexposed to sexual pressure before she has reached a coinciding interest.
Although these differences in development are eventually negated, the effects of adolescent experiences during the process, whether traumatic or benign, can have a powerful effect on adult perceptions. A woman who was continually pressured about sexual matters in her teenage years may read more into her husband’s sexual advances than is really there—thinking his sexual desire (like those gross teenage boys) far exceeds hers. (...)"
