Are you more open about your autism or your sexuality?

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Because my mom and my sister are both "Autism deniers", I am often told by them to behave in a manner to give people the impression that I do not have ASD.

As for me being bisexual, I will at some point come out to my mom as bi. My sister does know that I am bi and is accepting of my newfound sexual orientation.

On the internet, I'll usually be equally as open about my sexuality as I am about my Aspergers. But in real life, I don't really tell people I'm Asexual because they probably wouldn't believe it, or think that it's not a real thing and I just "Haven't found the right person." So I don't bother. I tried telling my Mum and she says I just haven't found the right person, probably because I've had a boyfriend and I don't think she understands that we can date people and even do things with them and even enjoy it (Which I did at first until the relationship turned bad), and I doubt my Dad would understand it either. It's not really that big of a thing to me because I have no interest in getting a boyfriend after what happened last time, so for now, I guess I'll just keep hinting that I've never wanted to do sexual things with boys I've had crushes on and only did it with my boyfriend because I was curious and then he wanted more.

What does being 'ace' mean? (I'm not judging, I'm honestly curious)

I get frustrated when people think asexuality doesn't exist or that the person just hasn't had good sex. (I'm not asexual).

I'm much more open about my sexuality. People will know I'm gay within a few conversations; I talk about my husband like anyone else would. But I don't talk about my autism unless I think it would help someone to know. For example, I told my boss but not my coworkers. I'm sure they know that something is odd about me, and they might suspect I have autism, but I haven't told them. If they asked, I would be truthful.
Honestly, I've had much better reactions from telling people I'm gay than autistic, if you don't count my family and church and all my friends when I came out at 16yo. Being gay is no big deal to most people anymore (or at least they say it's no big deal, which is really all I care about). But when people find out I'm autistic, they either want to prove me wrong or feel bad for me or treat me like I have Downs syndrome. No thank you.

Being "ace" is another way of saying "asexual."

Oh! Ok, then. I learned something new.