Are you more open about your autism or your sexuality?

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Which are you more open about?
Autism 35%  35%  [ 16 ]
Sexuality 41%  41%  [ 19 ]
Equally open/closed about both 24%  24%  [ 11 ]
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19 Jun 2016, 4:51 pm

Because my mom and my sister are both "Autism deniers", I am often told by them to behave in a manner to give people the impression that I do not have ASD.

As for me being bisexual, I will at some point come out to my mom as bi. My sister does know that I am bi and is accepting of my newfound sexual orientation.


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28 Jun 2016, 3:35 pm

On the internet, I'll usually be equally as open about my sexuality as I am about my Aspergers. But in real life, I don't really tell people I'm Asexual because they probably wouldn't believe it, or think that it's not a real thing and I just "Haven't found the right person." So I don't bother. I tried telling my Mum and she says I just haven't found the right person, probably because I've had a boyfriend and I don't think she understands that we can date people and even do things with them and even enjoy it (Which I did at first until the relationship turned bad), and I doubt my Dad would understand it either. It's not really that big of a thing to me because I have no interest in getting a boyfriend after what happened last time, so for now, I guess I'll just keep hinting that I've never wanted to do sexual things with boys I've had crushes on and only did it with my boyfriend because I was curious and then he wanted more.



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28 Jun 2016, 5:21 pm

lidsmichelle wrote:
I'm far more forthcoming about my aspies. I did a foray into online dating, and after getting many terrifying messages from people because I'm ace, I stopped telling people. I'm also bi/pan on the romantic end, but that doesn't seem to bother people as much. There's something about being ace that seems to make people think they either have to explain to me how I'm wrong and confused, or even essentially threaten to "show me better" which I'm sure you get the implication.


What does being 'ace' mean? (I'm not judging, I'm honestly curious)


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28 Jun 2016, 5:32 pm

littlecatinthewindow wrote:
On the internet, I'll usually be equally as open about my sexuality as I am about my Aspergers. But in real life, I don't really tell people I'm Asexual because they probably wouldn't believe it, or think that it's not a real thing and I just "Haven't found the right person." So I don't bother. I tried telling my Mum and she says I just haven't found the right person, probably because I've had a boyfriend and I don't think she understands that we can date people and even do things with them and even enjoy it (Which I did at first until the relationship turned bad), and I doubt my Dad would understand it either. It's not really that big of a thing to me because I have no interest in getting a boyfriend after what happened last time, so for now, I guess I'll just keep hinting that I've never wanted to do sexual things with boys I've had crushes on and only did it with my boyfriend because I was curious and then he wanted more.


I get frustrated when people think asexuality doesn't exist or that the person just hasn't had good sex. :evil: (I'm not asexual).

I'm much more open about my sexuality. People will know I'm gay within a few conversations; I talk about my husband like anyone else would. But I don't talk about my autism unless I think it would help someone to know. For example, I told my boss but not my coworkers. I'm sure they know that something is odd about me, and they might suspect I have autism, but I haven't told them. If they asked, I would be truthful.
Honestly, I've had much better reactions from telling people I'm gay than autistic, if you don't count my family and church and all my friends when I came out at 16yo. Being gay is no big deal to most people anymore (or at least they say it's no big deal, which is really all I care about). But when people find out I'm autistic, they either want to prove me wrong or feel bad for me or treat me like I have Downs syndrome. No thank you.


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28 Jun 2016, 7:18 pm

jimmyboy76453 wrote:
lidsmichelle wrote:
I'm far more forthcoming about my aspies. I did a foray into online dating, and after getting many terrifying messages from people because I'm ace, I stopped telling people. I'm also bi/pan on the romantic end, but that doesn't seem to bother people as much. There's something about being ace that seems to make people think they either have to explain to me how I'm wrong and confused, or even essentially threaten to "show me better" which I'm sure you get the implication.


What does being 'ace' mean? (I'm not judging, I'm honestly curious)


Being "ace" is another way of saying "asexual."


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29 Jun 2016, 5:42 pm

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jimmyboy76453 wrote:
lidsmichelle wrote:
I'm far more forthcoming about my aspies. I did a foray into online dating, and after getting many terrifying messages from people because I'm ace, I stopped telling people. I'm also bi/pan on the romantic end, but that doesn't seem to bother people as much. There's something about being ace that seems to make people think they either have to explain to me how I'm wrong and confused, or even essentially threaten to "show me better" which I'm sure you get the implication.


What does being 'ace' mean? (I'm not judging, I'm honestly curious)


Being "ace" is another way of saying "asexual."


Oh! Ok, then. :D I learned something new.


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