Homophobic straight guys

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the moment i realized im a quintuple minority i stopped caring

As a homophobic straight guy myself, maybe I can answer that question...

I always called myself straight. Most people would say I'm "aro." because the times I have found a romantic connection with a girl it's because we were good friends and I just realized one day that the chemistry had started. Honestly, I haven't pursued that because I'm a voluntary celibate for religious reasons. Even if I weren't celibate, there is still the matter of matrimony, in which I very much believe.

I used to be
1) suicidally depressed
2) uncertain what was wrong with me

and I worried everybody would make assumptions and believe I was gay. Here's what it is like. Put yourself in my size 11 cap-toe dress boots, the same ones I walk two miles a day in to work, and think on that.

Okay. I worry a lot about vulnerability. People pick on me easily because I don't do well with loud sounds and am enough of a klutz that it gets noticed.

And since I am a tiny little birdlike man, and weigh less than 130 pounds, I worry about BEING ASSAULTED. I have already survived ONE attempted murder and been in a few other less serious things...my belief in equal rights took a hit when a black man tried killing me. I was fairly racist for a few years after that. Now I work with a bunch of people who happen to be, some of them, black, and some of them, lesbian/bi. Who cares. They all have stories. They all have faces. They all were made in the image & likeness of God--even if they don't believe in him, and prefer astrology or some superstitious runic B.S.

I can't tell whether people are joking or not,
I can't tell what's supposed to be a "come-on" or not,
Bro Culture gives me the creeps because it seems ironically homoerotic, which is creepy and fake
Bro culture is set in opposition to "nerds" like me.
I dress sharp when I go out because I think it's a good thing to do that, instead of complain about the out-in-public pyjamas everyone wears. Pyjamas are for sleeping in, not going to the grocer's.

Regarding the filing of "stereotypically masculine roles" (Thanks for bringing that up, Twilightprincess!) I used to worry everyone thought I was gay because I didn't go for all the macho stuff. I hate hot-rods, the sound of a V8 with loud pipes annoys me, I don't like shooting animals for sport or food, and when I was sixteen I bought:
(Drum roll please!)
a broken Victrola, and started collecting stuff from the turn of the century. I wanted to live like it was still 1925. Still do...the houses back then were like sensory cocoons for people like me.

Anyway, I have been so scared all my life of being considered gay, of being assaulted, of being thought unmanly, that if gay guys make advances at me, then my first reaction is violence, not virtue signaling. I'm worried, and admitting that I'm scared is something I accept but the culture considers unmasculine--so there we go again... I can only wonder at how women feel with the catcallers; thank goodness for MeToo.

Straight guys, if you don't like gays hitting on you, don't hit on women--or the pot is calling the kettle black. Don't be a racist kitchen tool. Better yet, just don't be a tool, full stop.
Gay guys, your "Interest" is disgusting and if I feel threatened I believe in self-defense, lethal if necessary.
Women, hang in there. Nerds are better pals than bros but watch out for the incels, they're toxic.


So that's it...a confession of why I would like to be just left alone.

People, it's not the 1950s any more. Not all men are like the old Chase & Sanborn coffee advertisements. We're not chauvinists.

Saying men have no feelings is like saying Aspies have no empathy. Some don't but others of us have too much. I used to hate riding horses because I didn't think it was kind to them. Later in life I found that horses will want to be your best friend...I miss them, more than I do a lot of people. Horses, incidentally, have never lied to me or been deliberately cruel.

And chivalry is the greatest compliment history bestows on men: as G.K. Chesterton observed, the greatest compliment you can give a man is to call him a horse.




That was long. Sorry about that.

I don't know anyone silly enough to believe in a quantifiable measurement of fear. Certainly there is psychological research done on this, which is a fascinating topic, but different people fear differently. Just because I freeze when I hear subwoofers in the distance doesn't mean everyone else has the same phobia of amplified bass in music (for me I associate it with a bunch of "bros" who were harassing me.)

Crimadella: Oddly enough, Gay people walk into churches all the time. They're called parishoners. I know some very devout people who are gay. One of them is a lesbian girl who lives like a celibate. Both she and I are in the same boat--we're not married, so sack romp is strictly forbidden. It doesn't matter at this point whose attractions lean which way. (Incidentally she is one of the coolest people I know.)


KT67: My dislike is equal-opportunity. Large or small I don't trust (not the gays but the cultural mentality.) Perhaps it's because I don't trust people easily, that I find this even easier to distrust. Even the thought of one of them having a desire for me gives me the creeps. Nuff said.

A homophobic straight guy had the nerve to tell me that "you make people uncomfortable with the way you dress!"

The statement is correct

But everyone makes people uncomfortable with the way they dress

That's like saying, the dog bite did not hurt you. Pain receptors hurt you

When the dog but the couch, the couch did not hurt

Correct

But it is not justified to take your dog off its leash

Everyone is "comfortable", "uncomfortable" or neither


Three groups

Seven billion people

Each category contains more than two people






How about "you make people uncomfortable when you continue living"


That statement is also correct


It does not justify, suicide




A meditation "instructor" Anthony Rodgers penis had the nerve to tell me that "we would rather not have you doing yoga. It's distracting"


How about, "we would rather not have you continue living. It's distracting"


If this penis was so bad at meditation that he found it "distracting" when I did yoga , he wasn't good at meditation. Because the world contains a lot of louder, emotionally disturbing things, than when , I wrongfully did unskillful yoga







f**k mister redelings, San Diego, civil engineer

Dave redelings , Caminito dia, la Jolla


f**k Anthony Rodgers, Saturday night Sangha, Berkeley, east Bay healing collective







Those lil penis are not worth the energy it takes to, interact with them











They tell me "I care" (about shortfatbalduglyman". But they only "care" as long as they reserve the moral right to, authority veto anything you do, just because it's "distracting" and "uncomfortable" for them



Entitled lil penises

I've known a lot of straight guys who were nice to me and didn't care that I was gay.

And honestly I think it's pretty sh***y for some gay guys to sexually harass or molest heterosexual men, which DOES happen occassionally contrary to the far-left's claim that gay people are all innocent and straight people are all evil and out to hurt them, and then turn around and demonize straight guys claiming that they deserve it because of homophobia.

I mean think about the hypocrisy in that.