Genderqueer, Androgyne, Bigender

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I too feel that I am both gendered. I do not feel upset by this- it is what it is- but sometimes I do wonder if I'll ever feel at ease with myself because I can't really BE both, atleast, not as often as I feel that I change back and forth.

I too believe that gender comes on a spectrum. I find myself shifting slightly back and forth off the middle.

I am very interested in why this seems (or if this seems) quite common in aspies. There is some argument that it is due to aspies not picking up what society expects of them in terms of gender to the same degree as NTs. But I don't really believe that this is enough to influence what gender someone FEELS inside.... I didn't understand that I was not expected to play with cars, but I also didn't care that what they thought.

I'm starting to think that maybe it is just another of the vastly diverse Aspie traits (that some have and some do not, like all the others) that defies precise logical explanation as to why it exists.

I'm physically female, but I identify as androgynous.

As far as who I'm attracted to... that's a bit complicated.

physically female and ok with that- quite androgynous and flamboyant, i think i look like a steryotypical gay guy with what i wear
i am also bisexual-ish

Identify genderqueer here, and trans as I'm transitioning - ideal if my body was as in-between as me.

i am bi gendered its only recently came out to my sister i was out to be husband for a few months before that he is very understanding about it

I can relate very much with the 'gay man in a woman's body thing' - though with me it's more like, 'bisexual gender-bending guy in a woman's body'. I like putting on dresses and make-up, but it's almost like a kink and it feels like I'm 'dragging up' and being theatrical. I'll dress in a combination of male and female styles, as well. I'm not especially androgynous-looking physically but I do get a kick out of wearing men's clothing.

I tend to be attracted to bi people and 'differently gendered' people. I like gay guys too, but that's a bit...erm...futile

I'm a guy physically who does NOT have a masculine personality. I'm attracted to women but some of em are lesbians before I know they are lesbians & the one time I was in a relationship; I was extremely overly sensitive, emotional,& kinda b!tchy & controlling; I think I'm an HSP(Highly sensitive person). I got along better with girls as a kid & when I started going through puberty; I felt I was born the wrong gender. I sort of accepted that I'm a guy but I sometimes think I would of been better off if I was a woman because I don't really feel like a guy but I don't feel like a fem girl either. I say straight borderline asexual & I sometimes say I feel like I'm a lesbian in a man's body. I don't really understand all these diffract terms. Could any of these terms apply to me

I'm biologically female, and I identify as a (mostly) heterosexual female, but emotionally I think I'm somewhat androgynous - I think of myself as "balanced." Even though I look feminine, I often act like a teenage boy, and this is one of my favorite traits about myself. It throws off a lot of guys, though - I find it amusing, haha.

I was AMAB (assigned male at birth), I hesitate to use the words "male bodied" because I get read as female 100% of the time in nothing but my panties, and 0% of the time when they hit the floor. I would say my gender is female leaning, but far from binary; maybe it's half way between F and GQ if such a place exists.

As far as attraction, I tend to like very non-binary trans men (usually queer identified and kind of flaming, "gay boy trapped in a woman's body" type guys) or butch cis women (the two are polar opposites, I know). Maybe it's the androgyny that I'm attracted to. I'm not sure, honestly.

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I've said this elsewhere, but I consider myself agender/genderless.

My attractions are kind of complex to explain, but since I'm asexual it probably doesn't matter. Just about the only firm thing I can say is that I am not attracted to men and that I am not particularly interested in "traditional" relationships. If I'm feeling lazy about explaining gender etc. I just say I'm a lesbian woman, but that's more a compromise for dealing with people who think there are only two genders, and not something I particularly love.

I am male physically and mostly I consider myself male, but sometimes I feel like I have no gender or that I'm female even. /:

Attraction wise I'm predominantly attracted to the female form (rather than the gender role) but I'm also attracted to some men as well.

All this said, if you'd talked to me last year I'd have probably said I was asexual, just didn't seem into it then which was odd because I was at university!

Also the whole stereotypical gay persona ('camp') really puts me off. Two of my friends are gay (and one of their partners is bi) and both of them just seem like two normal guys. That said, I have no definition for normal.

I don't really fit either gender stereotype, and I don't really feel like I have a gender. I'm not sure what having a gender is supposed to feel like, so I may be mistaken in my thinking.

Most people think I'm asexual or lesbian, I am the latter option, but that isn't really linked to my gender.

I've never heard the term genderqueer. I think of myself as having some transgender leanings but physically I'm too male to pass. In my teenage years I did a little bit of crossdressing but haven't since. Sometimes I think about doing it these days though...

I'm attracted to masculine women and effeminate men. I guess the more gender neutral types.

I am biologically female but I'm not feminine. I don't think I'm a tomboy, I just identify with androgynous.
I'm attracted to feminine girls and guys. I'm not sexually attracted to them as I'm (panromantic) asexual. I just think they look/act nice.

I'm male-bodied but I feel on the female side of androgynous and I tend to get along the best with tomboys, lesbians, and some gay men. I don't necessarily look androgynous though, although I have been experimenting in the past year trying to find something more "congruent", and am "trans-questioning". My body type is such that its not particularly feminine (short legs, long arms, long torso... although somewhat "curvy" I'm not fat), even if my face is more neutral. I've got boyish traits and female traits, the one thing I don't think I reall have is "manly" traits.