Gay Aspergers !

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Maybe a 12 y.o. is a little too young - it's on one side of the extreme. Maybe a mature 15, 16 or 17 y.o. low age bound would be better for me.

I'm not all that good with directions, so maybe after a date my potential bf can bring me home and do the good night thing at my door. And then he'll say, "I'll call you tomorrow." But I'll tell him, "No. Text me."

This thing wouldn't work so well if the bf is too young.

the taking me home and good night at the door thing.

cus if he's too young and can't figure out the way then we'd be lost and have to call his parents to pick us up.

I don't know how anyone could consider a relationship with anyone under 16 if they themselves are in their 20's +. I mean most 12 year olds don't even know how to cook, let alone have a MATURE relationship.

Don't take this as me judging or insulting you androol, that is far from what I am doing. I am merely saying I'm not sure that you are sure of what you are saying. I mean... just... I don't know how to say it but surely someone gets what I mean?? A 12 year old in a relationship with a 22 year old. They would not have the slightest clue about how to handle a relationship. You say "someone to just hang with", that is merely only a friendship.

To be honest I struggle sometimes with my 16 year old friend because she can be so kiddish sometimes, and not in a good way. I personally would not date anyone under 20, unless they were 18 or 19 and were "older than their years" if you get me.

I've actually discovered in my own 17 years of experience, that almost everyone who is looking for a relationship wants what you would have in a good friendship. From what I can tell, people tend to push it into a relationship if there is sexual attraction, though this is not always the case. As there are many Aspies and NTs or Asexuals that might also desire a relationship purely for the friendship, plus that little extra bit that's love.

Then you get into an entirely new bowl of wax with love. What is love, really? Some people think love is when a person is always thinking about you, and caring about your welfare, willing to do anything for that person. Others think it's more about how honorably someone treats you. Then you've got the people that think it's when someone will always be happy you're around.

It's just a little complicated at this point, heh.

You seem mature Daniel! To be questioning what Love is and to be aware of how people act and handle relationships, shows you are taking bits and pieces of knowledge and summarising your own ideas. Where as a lot of people just bounce from one thing to the next without learning anything.

Good on you for getting to such a place at 17

I just wanted to weigh in on the dating younger people thing. You have to remember under a certain age they still have yet to go through a good amount of physical and hormonal changes and will become quite a different person within a few years. I don't think age is a big issue, compatibility is what matters. But it's good to keep that in mind when scouting a potential love interest who is 15 or under.

Just an idea...

Maybe you guys could ask that your thread be turned into a STICKY

Awesome idea MissConstrue...

Right lads, who's gonna ask?

Have you guys found that you were able to navigate through the gay community alright? like were you able to make friends and find networks in it or was it harder with the aspergers and all?

I don't know what you're talking about. I haven't encountered a gay community, just the people in this thread and a couple on another site. The other site was purely by accident.