Is there any gay guys with Asperger's here?...

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I consider myself a homosexual, albeit a lonely one. However mostly by choice as I am too afraid of relationships. I am however putting myself "back on the market" so to speak. It is very challenging to be gay and an aspie, most of the people I am interested in are straight.

OMG I hear that-up until this year and my diagnosis I never knew why I just couldnt connect-I am not a bar person and a friend of mine has taken me to different places to get me out and about at least but I was never comfortable with the noise and all the people and being unable to read these same people made it very difficult-now I am going to try also-I know the feeling-I would love to do things but the problem is the other persons dont want to do things with me-as I am not particularly lucky in the good looks or muscular fit body-it gets frustrating-people keep saying-"its whats on the inside that counts" well the first thing they see is not your insides unfortunately.I have never had any sort of relationship nor tried because of the AS and now it may be too late--I will never have the experiences that my NT acquaintances had when they were 16,20,25 30,35 even 40-I will never know or experience that. I know our group likes its solitude but lonliness is not all that it is cracked up to be I can tell you that-a chat buddy of mine says "dont worry there is a lid for every pot"-well a lid doesnt exist on this earth for my pot it seems nor do any of the lids that are out there want to even get to know me. I know I am not a bad person and I have wants and desires like other people but I am socially naive-no experiences.

Hey I'm jealous. Actually, I'm asexual, Maybe its a case of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence, but I have frequently wished that I was gay. That would make all those times I got beat up in school for being a f@g when I wasn't so much more meaningful. A gay friend said that people watch your eyes and if you don't look at the girls enough, then you are assumed gay. We were talking about "gaydar" and how that worked and I'm thinking maybe that NT heteros do the same thing when choosing who to beat up.

Anyhow, if looking for gay friends/lovers, check out okcupid.com.

A little 'secret' I will share with you all is that if you like anime, there is a subset of people that you might clique with. Anime has weird enough people, generally more open to sexuality. A lot of straights, but a lot of others too. I suspect furry conventions may get you somewhere too, lol!! Even the straight people generally don't seem to make a big hubba fubba fuss about what you are. They may still be naturally inclined to be selfish and inconsiderate, but that is everyone including us, lol.

Not all religious people believe that gays should be condemned. I'm Christian and I don't. The part of the Bible that people get that from is a section of laws (not commandments) pertaining to Jewish people of the time. If the Bible had been written today, that section would no doubt have a verse that said "Thou shalt not do 70 through a school zone." Anyhow, God loves all his children - even the ones that were born gay.

I do wonder what God thinks about closet gays. That's lying. In today's society, there is no reason to be in the closet if you live in the US.

Sadly, I believe that a lot of this anti-gay, anti-abortion stuff is just a way to get people all riled up so that they will throw more money in the collection plate. That is just plain wrong. The Bible even says that abortion is not murder, but you won't hear that from these people.

Just a thought, but all you gay guys complaining that you can't find someone, maybe you should think about exchanging phone numbers or something.

Honestly, from my perspective, you gay guys have a pretty good deal. I mean, you can get together and talk about stuff you both like. You know how each other thinks. To this day, I have never figured out how a woman thinks. I don't think any man ever will. Sometimes I really wish it was possible to "switch" sexual orientations.

Any other Non-gays out there that wish they were gay?

PS: Overheard today at Burger King in the next booth. "I had to move out from my wife. It was either that or go to prison for murder. I've been to prison before and I don't want to go back."

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Thank you for your progressive thinking on the subject-I know not all christians believe its a sin but its the ones that are viciously vocal about condemning it that seem to get all the attention-I am who I am and should not have to change into what someone else thinks I should be-I refuse I may be lonely but I am trying to make more connections-one step at a time-it is hard to do-or not as easy as it seems for NT people to do.

Sadly, there are a lot of misled Christians out there that have been listening to false teachings from false preachers. Off the cuff, I can put these into two categories. One type of false preacher is the "feel good" preacher. Basically, this kind of preacher says that everyone goes to heaven and the only thing that matters is your self esteem. The other is the hate mongerer. These are the ones that preach that gays go to hell and that its OK to murder abortion doctors. The latter is the most dangerous.

Actually, I do seem to have a lot of gay friends for a guy who isn't gay. One of them, a few years ago, was insistent that I have sex with him. At first I agreed, but then I couldn't force myself to do it. He refused to talk to me after that, but I think he was asking a lot from a guy who isn't gay.

PS- Regarding Christian views, I really think folks should simply ask themselves "What would Jesus do?" Would Jesus hate gays and advocate killing abortion doctors? The answer is no on both counts. Anyhow, Christianity says that some people go to heaven and others go to hell. Being gay is not part of the definition or requirements.

Being gay has another advantage or 'advantage', no kids!! ! haha.

So is the myth about us having all of that "disposable" income. lol----I personally want to see that money-heheheheehe

Like Rodney Dangerfield said in the movie "Back to School" "The best part about kids is making them"
I know its not possible for two guys but it might be fun to try and keep on trying-

Yup. Hi.

I am a man who is physically attracted to men. But I do not have many relationships. It's not that I'm lonely or pitiful. I just prefer to be alone almost all the time.

A few years ago I used to date a guy for almost a year and he wanted us to spend more time together but more than 1 day a week of seeing him was far too much to me. I cannot have people in my life that much. He eventually wanted us to live together, but I know that would have compromised me far too much so I broke up with him and haven't dated anybody since.

Gay/Bicurious aspie here. Haven't been in a relationship in a while, have been in no gay ones irl as of yet.

I'm wanting one, but it seems the only places to virtually 'find' one is at clubs, through friends, or at college; at least at my age. Plus I'm not very much 'out' to my family and most friends, the only one who knows is my abusive mother I live with.

i am versatile.

I am a mostly homosexual aspie.