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I have Asperger's (or so I believe) and this topic drives me crazy... I think I'm transgendered. I'm male but I find myself to be often feminine at times. I could probably identify as a lesbian, for that matter. I don't go too far into these topics because I already have AS, ADHD and Depression - being in one minority is tough enough, I could technically still BE an LGBT individual, but following another minority would just be problematic.
It's weird. 
I feel feminine, I like feminine things, I like feminine people, I like females. With the exception of childbirth and periods, I feel like I would be more comfortable in the opposite sex's body. What makes this complicated... is that I'm still attracted to women.
And then it just gets ambiguous because the ADHD aspect tends to muddy my already complicated personality... I played football for five years - I didn't really fit the team well, because of AS's physical dis-coordination, and in retrospect, some feminine traits. But I still liked certain aspects to it... also, I do enjoy listening to pretty heavy music from time to time - heavy metal, for example, is a masculine pastime. Among a few other things...
I find the Ambiguously Gay (But Actually Straight) trope to fit more often than not. In terms of orientation, I guess I could be slightly bisexual but I'll usually end up leaning more towards females. >.<
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13 Jan 2011, 5:36 pm
As a tween I might have been called transsexual, since I wished I was a boy.
I am not transsexual now, but I am transgender in that my interests are more usual for males. The only real feminine aspect of me is my love for animals and possibly that I like quizzes. (One of which showed that the likelihood of me being male was 80% and another that showed that I think like a female and feel like a male, whatever that’s supposed to mean! No. I don’t take quizzes seriously but considering the theme here it’s a fun result.)
I have never used make-up or high heeled shoes, and I never will. I haven’t wore a skirt/dress since elementary school and I have no desire to.
I absolutely refuse to accept the notion that some activities or behaviour are improper for one gender while acceptable or even expected of the other. I don’t deny that some things are more common for one gender, but that doesn’t make it exclusive.
More than feeling female (or male) I feel like me. I (and everyone else) shouldn’t be seen as a gender but as an individual whose traits are her or his own, period. I’m not typically female and that is only a problem for close-minded people.
unlike you me and most people have a gender identity, it isn't something we choose to identify as, also there are alot of differences between a male brain and a female brain, though the differences are sutle. don't get me wrong though.I'm a person that thinks english and alot of languages are flaws because of gender spefic pronouns.that person has male genitalia,the person is so nice.
I just wanted to comment on what you said, Tiffany. I am a transgendered woman and
that is just the way it goes. I never had any choice, I am a woman whether I like it
or not. Most days I like it very much and the transitioning process is also something
that I just have to go through. I either transition or I become completely disabled,
as in, a person who can do absolutely nothing but sit on the floor and die.
As an AS woman (I also have Aspergers diagnosed) I can do many things, be happy
and be a really good member of the society, study, work, have some sort of communication
and so on. I have a really good self-esteem, which has helped me a lot, so there's a lot
to be grateful for and not just problems, so that's what I want to say especially to
transgendered people on WP, that is, many good things can be found in the life
of a transgendered person, but first you have to admit it to yourself if you are
transgendered. So give yourself a chance.
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14 Jan 2011, 5:58 am
Mmmm, I just see gender norms as a ridiculous notion. I can't get my head around why, if someone's body was suddenly altered but with all other things being equal, they'd suddenly be expected, and socially allowed, to wear different clothing... their mind-soul has not changed. Personally, I'd like to scrap the idea of gender, at least as far as cultural norms go (there may be a place for it in the context of acedemia). So what if someone wants to wear dresses and makeup?
As they say, the Dwarves have no conception of gender... 
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14 Jan 2011, 9:28 am
I don't think transitioning is just about wearing clothes. There are plenty of people (far more than transgender people) who never seek transition and dress as the other sex.
Not to say gender norms are awesome or anything, just there's more going on. 
14 Jan 2011, 12:05 pm
Yes; however, I am talking about gender in the vulgar sense of the word, which IMO is a ridiculous notion. As I said, there is room for some notion of gender...
Yet, if a male dresses as a woman, acts like a woman, and looks like a woman, is s/he transgendered? No. If a society existed where gender, simply, did not exist, could transgendered individuals exist? One must suspect that transgenderism is invented, at least in part, by the gender binary...
I could write an essay on that subject, but I'm not aiming for a PhD in Social Art
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14 Jan 2011, 12:48 pm
One might suspect this, especially if one doesn't bother to pay attention to transgender people. You'll find that many talk about a physical dysphoria, and not simply a desire to adopt the superficial trappings of gender. That may be there too, but you're vastly oversimplifying. You really can't know if eliminating gender would mean no one would ever want to transition.
Edit to add: Also, I do personally know non-binary transsexual people who have transitioned - hormones, surgery, etc. The fact that they do not consider themselves men or women does not mean they had no need to do this. The gender binary doesn't create transgender people, although it is what defines them as different from cisgender people.
You would then join a long tradition of people who are not themselves transgender who feel entitled to interpret transgender people's motivations without concern for transgender people's thoughts. It wouldn't be a new or innovative insight, but it would resemble a lot of neurotypical writings about autistic people.
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