ignudi wrote:
i'm gay and stayed in closet much longer than I should have (until after divorce, age 36). It EASIER for me to date women because there were so many examples around (personally and on tv) for me to what and try to mimic the mating
rituals. In the gay world, believe me, the rules are very different and I found it very difficult.
My story is similar, although the coming out started before the divorce. We brought another male into the mix, and were polyamorous, but that didn't last longer than a few months as they left me and hooked up with each other.
That took a while to get over, but I did. When I was ready to start dating again, I decided to check out the fellows.
Like you mentioned, it was way easier to date women. I'm still getting used to the guys though. Expectations are so different. (Like as to when it's a good idea to become intimate...with women it usually takes a while, with guys...it usually doesn't take much time at all.)
I'm looking at this time as my second adolescence, getting used to expressing my bi/homosexuality as well as living life on the spectrum. (I'm not diagnosed but I certainly have a lot of aspie traits...and it's great to know it's not just general craziness...I'm actually a special edition!)
Glad to see so many cool people here!