Gay Aspergers !

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Queer here. Although it's a torture a.) finding someone and b.) keeping someone.

I'm not aggressive at all, and I try to explain that, but I think sometimes some women don't understand... or they're too passive themselves. I've lost a few just based on the fact that I can't initiate anything.

I think I'd be more successful as a bi or hetero female. At least that's what I tell myself. (Not that I'd ever want to change who I am.)

Asperger's and bi, but not really interested in sex (it's complicated).

this is exactly what i am. i like looking at porn though

wow... ditto me too.

I haven't posted in a really long time...but anyway, another gay aspie here!

same goes for me.

^OMG, you're from Missouri and love the Beatles...that's rare so do I!

Well I'm not gay or lesbian but I think I can identify with a lot of you.

Another gay Aspie here...albeit a closeted one. I'd like to get to know other gay men with Aspergers, so feel free to PM me if you feel so inclined.

I'm gay. My real problem with other gay guys is the shallowness. I'm extremely vain myself but this doesn't mean I like sleeping around. My sexual experiences have been with good looking, extremely shallow guys who just wants sex with another hot guy and nothing more. I never met a gay guy who was, as a person, someone I felt real chemistry with. However, I met a few straight guys, funny enough, I could have fallen for easily.

My life goal is to meet someone. I don't really care for much else in life. When you're with someone you like, even if it's just a friend, an aimless walk around town can feel meaningful. This is the kind of thing I'm looking for to fill my life.

I don't think there's a link between asperger's and homosexuality, btw.

actually most arent as shallow as they pretend to be. its a social convention for gay men to be vain, shallow, like kylie and use copious amounts of hair products.

its how people think they are supposed to act so they do but most grow out of away from pubs and clubs.

crap like QAF has a lot to answer for

actually most arent as shallow as they pretend to be. its a social convention for gay men to be vain, shallow, like kylie and use copious amounts of hair products.

its how people think they are supposed to act so they do but most grow out of away from pubs and clubs.

crap like QAF has a lot to answer for

I'm extremely vain but I don't see it as anything that have to contradict the fact that I'm also super serious when it comes to relationships. My vanity is just me, a part of my personality. It doesn't reflect my sex life or how I treat emotions or commitments. Sometimes though, I use it as a defence mechanism against people who are clearly shallow and untrustworthy. I'm loyal and I'm looking for loyalty and trust but being vain myself allows me to uphold even exterior respect and dignity when dealing with ruthless people.

In my experience, typical NT gay guys who study to become engineers or suitcase liberals, keep their hair short and tidy and look/dress like a straight average golden boy next door are just as shallow as the club b*****s with the hair gel. They also play a role, how they think a relationship and love should be. These guys bore me to hell, they are judgmental and goody two shoes and a relationship to them is a well edited real life version of random american TV drama series number X with clear rules and codes on how everything should be.

There aren't many guys who are just random and beautiful.

erm that was kinda my point, people arent really as shallow as they appear. it like many other aspects of personality are put on for display purposes.

you use the pretence of it too as a defence mechanism, did it never occur to you that pretty much everyone else does the same because they think everyone is shallow and doesnt want to get hurt either.

As a matter of fact, no. My own experiences tells me a lot of gay guys just want sex and then change sexual partners several times a week.

someone said we don't conform to normal social expectations of sexuality...I think that's interesting because I came out of the closet when I was 14, in a small town... in Ohio. I saw no reason to try to hide it...I'm one of the only gay people I know who came out that early. I never even thought that it could be because of asperger's.

Fixed.