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we havent talked in months, he has not respond to any texts or phone calls. His email has been hacked and sending spam to everyone. He has not been on MSN or Yahoo Messenger. I think that he might be cheating on me as I quote from his facebook status "is i am very board and horny and would to have a play mate" posted from gays.com.
Do any of you think that he is cheating?

Sorry for your pain. I think it's possible that if his email has been hacked it's possible that his Facebook could be as well. Saying this though, you haven't talked to each other in months and it's possible that he's taken the cowards way out of your relationship. Most folks would think that it would be obvious due to the lack of communication that the relationship is over, I know that this wouldn't be obvious to some on the Spectrum though.

I hope you feel better soon. I can understand why you'd get hurt by this.

Why haven't you talked in months? I often do this with acquaintances, but most people would find this unacceptable in a relationship. I agree with LostAlien.

it is not the fact that we dont talk as much but I will send him an email, facebook message or a text about once a month or so and i never get a reply and I am like "ok whatever maybe he is low on minutes" or something like that. When I do see him on facebook chat or MSN I say "hey sexy , what is new with you" and then I wait for about 30 minutes for a reply and it is something like this "Oh I am ok lol" "how are you?" right before I say something he goes off line and I am like WTF?!? So what should I do?

Shugo, what kind of help do you need? From what you've said this guy isn't interested but just hasn't said it directly. In a relationship where the two of you were bf/bf, there would be at least daily contact (where possible) with most people. Even if only a text or similar daily contact is normal, the fact that he's not responding to your emails at all indicates to me that this relationship is one sided.

i want to know if I should break up with him...

As the great sage Dan Savage would say, "DTMFA."

From what you describe, there is no relationship there, and the sooner you break away from this non-relationship and find yourself a real relationship, the better it will be for you.

Frankly, I'm not even sure I would bother breaking up with him. Unfriend him, delete him from your MSN, delete his phone number from your phone and find a real man.

Ok Shugo, I will be blatantly blunt here. There is no relationship here, you can't break up with someone who doesn't even view themselves to be in a relationship because there's no point. This guy ended his relationship with you in a cowards way, he didn't have the decency to tell you and let you find someone better suited to you.

As Visagrunt said DTMFA.

thanks people