Uncertainty

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I don't understand when a girl is interested. There stated plainly. I wish I was better at it, then i would get when a girl is looking at me, or through me.

Let me state this, being a lesbian it's a small dating pool i can choose from. Being an Aspie, makes it even harder it seems since most people love going to clubs and bars, which sometimes i am good with, though i go absolutely deaf after a while. I just don't know. sometimes i feel as though i will be alone forever, trying to find someone who can put up with my "weirdness" and someone i would not feel guilty of making them deal with my Autistic side of things.

Silly? All i know is i need help.

I've gone through this, and I mean even to the point where one woman made a point to say she was attracted to me - but she did so obliquely and I didn't work out what she was really saying until years later when we both moved to different states, lost contact information, and the forum we used to stay in touch was taken down.

I've done the night club thing and the only way I did tolerate it was lots of alcohol. I certainly didn't know how to talk to anyone. That and I can tolerate loud music more than other loud noises.

So, yeah, not silly at all.

I have the same problem finding a girl and knowing if she is attracted.

Even NT lesbians and bisexuals have this problem because the social 'codes' are different to heterosexual dating.

This is why a lot of bi girls like me end up basically living a straight lifestyle. It's much easier to tell when a guy is into you.

I hope you find someone.