this is going to be a weight off my sholders

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right, miight as well get it out there for once, I'M BI SEXUAL So what? People always seems to have a problem with it and its well lonely ): I mean I do have a girlfriend (God bless her) but she lives soo far away, we do talk ALL the time, and I love her to pieces it just annoys me I can't see her.

And then when ppeople ask about my boyfriend or what have you I just shrug and say "i odnt got one" when what i really wanna say is "Im in love with a beautiful young lady and f off if you dnt like that"

BUT I can't

Why am I so ashamed of who I am ? xx

Honestly, I see no reason that anyone should have to hide the fact that they're going out with someone of the same gender. I'm Bi as well, and when I had a girlfriend, I never had a problem saying that she was my girlfriend.

My motto when it comes to that is, those who matter, don't mind and those who mind, don't matter. If someone really has a problem with it, do your best to ignore their reactions.

Probably because where you come from it is frowned upon. You should have no reason. Say it loud and proud. If you are in the United States, it is against the law to discriminate against sexual orientation.

Thank you for the reply, both of you,

I'm thinking about telling my mum that I have a girlfriend, not too sure how that's going to go as I don't really talk to her. She is strongly christain and is againest anything that isn't girl and boy marriage, so I'm a bit stuck cause I'm really honestly in love.

Are you still financially dependent on her? If you are, I would not tell her until you are fully financially independent.

There are lots of LGBT youth who become homeless because their parents disown them. I don't know if your mom would do that, but she might pressure you not to see your girlfriend anymore if you tell her or force you to go to a biased therapist.

I don't like the idea of hiding and lying, but coming out sometimes involves being tactful. You'd be surprised what Christian parents would do to their children.

I still depend on my mum sometimes for money, I mean I do have job and Im planning on going to uni but I still need my mums help with money and stuff, I'm going to give it a go at telling her, just like really quick or I'm going to write to her, I am a lot better at that at least then if she wants to do something about it seh can confront me in a calm manner x

I admire your courage. But before you do anything, maybe you should come up with a plan in case of a worst case scenario (ie: your'e mom cuts off all money). Will that require getting a second (or first) job? Will you need to find new lodgings? Just something to think about.

thank you my lovely's for all the replies.

I went straight up to my mum and told her this morning, I didn't get too much of a bad reaction just got looked up and down and then she hugged me and said "it's fine i don't care long as your happy considering the past you've had"

I am so very proud of myself (: & me and my girlfriend been together six months as of today so even more of a reason to tell her was that xx

Not true. In the US, it depends on which state.

To the OP, I have a similar situation. I have a close friend who I have some intense crush on. She's accepted me, even though my emotions are unrequited. It gets annoying. My friend from my old school asked, "Have you kissed a boy yet?" I said no. "You need to kiss a boy. You need to party with me. We're getting you a boyfriend." I was annoyed, but I laughed it off. It WAS kind of amusing.

Sorry, I;ve only just seen this i;ve not been very well at all. That's a bit of an odd thing, I don't do boys (you have no idea how wrong that sounded in my head) but some of them are deceant but I'm in a loving partnaship with my lass now, so it's okay. I used to get asked "have you kissedd a boy yet?" in high school, I just laughed it off myself. I didn't know what else to do about it. xx