Interesting conversation I had with my mom earlier...

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No, I didn't come out to her. Our conversation was over the Gay-Straight Alliance I'm a member of and the Gay Pride parade I might go to tomorrow. My mom knows that I'm wanting to go to the parade, which was why she strictly ordered me not to mention anything about it on Facebook, since I'm friends with some relatives. The reason she gave me was basically because she didn't want to hear any s**t from relatives over it. To be honest, I'm not even sure if she's comfortable with the fact that I'm attending a Gay Pride parade, but it's not like she's going to try to stop me.

Then, the conversation drifted toward the Gay-Straight Alliance. She asked me why I was a member, and I told her that I wanted to "broaden my horizons" and diversify my field of friends and acquaintances (which is true, but I didn't tell her it was also because I, myself, am gay). She accepted that explanation. It's not that she's disappointed in me or anything, it's just that she doesn't understand us gays at all. She has a "live and let live" attitude when it comes to homosexuality, but I can tell that the subject makes her a bit uncomfortable. I remember she told me that she could never imagine herself with another woman, to which I replied "Yeah, because you're straight."

I have a long way to go before I officially come out to my parents, but I'm glad that I seem to be making some progress on their overall worldview. Baby steps...

There's only one way to live life... but it's always too late when we find that out. (arrow of time and quantum physics)

If you were gone today, you want to be there tomorrow ...

but if you were there today, would you wait for tomorrow?

-I apologize if it made zero/6 sense.

I had it easy. I knew my parents would be fine with it, so one day when my Mom was driving me home from a school musical rehearsal I just said "Mom, I have something to tell you. I'm gay." The feeling can best be compared to jumping off a cliff. Her first response was just "Ok," sounding rather surprised.

You know your mother best. However, as an outsider, I would not be in the least surprised if--when the time comes that you do come out--she replies that she has known for some time. After all, she knows you better than anyone else, too, and you are providing all sorts of clues.

It sounds to me like you're going about things the right way. You are pursuing your interests, taking the time to learn, and you are not taking any irrevocable steps until you are ready to do so. Meanwhile, it seems to me that when the time comes she is just going to confront any of her discomfort that remains, and put it aside.