I had a very uncomfortable experience...

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A few days ago I was in a mental hospital because I had attempted suicide, but luckily I talked to a nice counselor and she is going to try and help me fix my Depression so I won't do anything stupid again.

But while I was in the hospital something very scary happened on my last day before I was checked out. I was sitting in the Dayroom watching TV and minding my own business when this weird guy started staring at me and then came up and sat down beside me. Being a shy person I didn't know what to make of it and tried to just be nice to him, but then he started asking if I would come over to his house to be his friend and demanded my phone number and address (which I of course didn't give to him). So he gave me his phone number insistingly. I kind of asked him why he was so eager to get to know me and he was telling me I was "pretty". To be honest at first I was kind of flattered, being gay myself I had never had another guy tell me that before and he was actually kind of good looking. So I tried a bit of amature flirting back at him but then he started to weird me out by claiming he was a vampire and a wealthy CIA agent and he even said he would pay me $1000 to give him a blowjob. I tried to quietly get away from him but started following me everywhere and when I sat down he would lean beside me and touch me.

I'm really glad I was allowed to leave the hospital after that, I was really scared this man might try to rape me or something. I had never had that feeling from people before but this guy was obviously dangerous and made it clear what his intentions with me were. I just hope I don't run into him on the street when he gets out of that mental hospital some day because I would be kind of scared for my life.

In a way it was really weird when I thought about it, I had never had any experience with guys hitting on me and the first time it happens in the worst possible place. But as creepy as this sound, I was kind of flattered that he thought I was "pretty" because for a long time I had always thought of myself as homely. But the fact he met me for like a few seconds speaks to just how wrong that really was.

What do you guys think of this incident that happened? Anything you guys care to share?

You were in a mental hospital that guy was obviously having a severe psychotic episode he might not even remember you or even saying those things to you when he gets well. It's can be very scary for anyone be around someone in that state and I imagine being Aspie can make it even scarier because of poor social skills.

I think you should have reported him to a staff member before you left. Who's to say he won't try that on someone else in the near future?

You were in a psychiatric hospital. You should expect there to be crazy people.

(I originally typed "You should expect there to be crazy people there," but then I realized that, though common, that would be an incorrect use of the English language as the statement is the redundant. The issue is "You should expect there to be crazy people there," It's sufficient and more correct, though archaic, to say "You should expect there to be crazy people.")

Messy either way. I'd avoid the whole issue and just go with "Expect crazy people."

GreySun369, try not to let this bother you. Nutters are everywhere, but the serious ones end up concentrated in these places. This could in fact be a good thing with regards to your own depression - first, that whatever your mental state, it's nowhere near as bad as that, and second, that you will never be so desperate as to seriously consider an offer like that!

I agree it might have been a good idea to mention it to staff. You could always call to talk to someone and let them know now though.

I actually did tell a nurse right before I checked out, hopefully she reported him or something. Then again I'm not really sure, the whole time I was there I got the impression that none of the staff really cared about their job.

It reminds me of funny and embarrassing things that happened while I was working at the psych unit of an hospital.

I'm pretty innocent and I was pretty happy so I was cheerfully talking to patients there and OUT OF NOWHERE one guy (obviously gay) literally kissed me on the cheeks. ARRRRGGHHH, I guess I was too friendly with him... The same guy did tell me one time that I was beautiful and he asked if he was also beautiful. That was so awkward omg!! ! lol

There was also one other guy working at the hospital who was about to refill the toilet paper of one the lady patient and then when he went in the bathroom the women closed the door and said "finally where alone together". Hahaha, poor guy! That patient was known for washing her face with face cloths which had feces on it.

I think it's pretty bad that my first experience of having a guy come onto me was in a mental hospital. If only he wasn't psychotic I might have tried starting a relationship with him because he was pretty good looking, but he kind of scared me after he started following me everywhere and sitting beside me everywhere I sat down.

tl;dr: Someone was hitting on you, and now you are away from said person.

These things happen. Stop with the melodrama and find a good-looking guy who isn't crazy.

Don't feel bad
You will surely find plenty of guys who will flirt with you later ^-^

I understand how you feel but that is why it's better to distance yourself emotionally from other people in a mental hospital.

You're right, it's not worth obsessing about. Maybe some day I will meet a guy who likes me and I can be comfortable with him enough to start a relationship with him.

OK, I just want to add to this that the whole reason I was talking about it was because it really did freak me out. I don't feel "sad" that I can't date this guy, I was really scared of him and thought he might hurt me. Maybe I did get a little melodramatic because people misunderstood me and I fed into that misunderstanding, but I now like to think of this as just what I needed to realize what my true sexuality is. I now believe I really am asexual instead of homosexual.