Am I transgender?

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I often wonder about this. I've wondered what it was like to be a girl many times during my life. Does that make me transgender? I've felt envious of some girls before. Does that make me transgender?

I've often felt envious of boys,
but that doesn't mean I think I *am* one.

It's a bit more involved than just wondering what it's like to be the opposite sex.
An online dictionary defined 'transgender' as "Appearing as, wishing to be considered as, or having undergone surgery to become a member of the opposite sex."
Here's a Wiki page that goes into more detail.

From a clinical perspective, what you describe to me does not sound like transgenderism.

It depends on why you're wondering, really. Would you feel more comfortable if you were female? Would you rather that others treat you as a woman?

I'm trying to become female...I'm quite depressed about it myself, but maybe I can try to help.

hugs

Transgender is a very complicated issue. I would suggest doing some research on it and taking a good hard look at exactly *why* you are jealous of women.

Im jealous of women because they can have multiple orgasms

I think most people wonder what it would be like to be another sex at some point. That's not really being transgender.

Being envious of women doesn't necessarily mean you are transgender, either. It depends on what you're envious of.

These answers don't mean you're not, but what you asked isn't indicative.

There are a lot of things that go into being transgender. I'd suggest reading accounts by other trans people (available all over the internet) and see if any of that resonates if you are really not sure.

You're transsexual if you want to be seen as a female.
If you don't want that, you're not transsexual, assuming you are physically male.

Do you count genderqueer/gender-fluid/third-gendered people as trans? If so, then many trans people don't want to "become a woman" or "become a man" because binary gender has so little meaning. I think you'll find plenty of folks in the trans community who are medically transitioning one way or the other just like any other transgendered person, but do not identify as one binary or the other.

I don't have any answers, but if it makes you feel any better, I'm in a somewhat similar situation, I'm not really sure what I am exactly either, and can relate to what you're saying. To wonder, out of sheer curiosity (and can one be sure of whether it's just curiosity or there's another craving there somewhere), what it would be like to be the opposite sex, or to envy something about the opposite sex (like multiple orgasms) do not in and of themselves show one is trans, but I don't think they rule it out either.

It is really hard for me to imagine myself as a woman. I don't do roleplay well. Never did growing up either. But I think there are certain things you need to be transgender. I know a woman who was a man and she told me that whenever she looked at her penis, she wanted to cut it off. She hated it because it made her lie. I don' tknow if this is an universal thing or not but I wonder if transgenders have a specific thing about their previous sex tha thtey hated for the same reason? I don't want to sound attacking, I want to find out if transgenders fell the same about soemthing. Was there a thing in your previous life that made you really hate yourself?

and want to change because you knew that would lead to self love. Sorry I forgot the last part inthe above post.

Not all transgender people have a problem with their bodies. Some know that they don't match the gender that cis (non-transgender) society assumes based on physical body, but they still don't physically feel dysphoric about it.

Personally I was miserable before getting chest surgery (I'm a trans guy) and before starting testosterone, but I know other trans guys who don't have a problem with their body or have any desire to change it, as they don't think body parts automatically represent gender. I don't think body parts automatically represent gender either, but I just personally didn't feel identified with my body before chest surgery/T.

Two points:

1) This discussion may be confusing identifying as transgender with being transsexual or having body dysmorphia. That's like saying all "autistics" or having AS or having a learning disorder or ADHD. The only "thing" someone needs is self-identification: if they identify as being transgender, they don't need to be tested or validated for their self-identification.


2) "Hating yourself" is a loaded statement within the trans and larger LGB community. Suicide is a serious issue in our community. Too many people take their lives because of this self- and societally-inflicted hatred. We should be vigilant in our language choices to not perpetuate harmful language.