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hi my names david im 21 and am confused. i am attracted to women. but i have urges and fantasies about being with men. i also getvery feminine feelings. someone help. thanks

Hi David. Welcome to Wrong Planet, or as I like to call it, "Melancholy Motel", or was that "Sad Shack?" I forget sometimes. Anyway, you're in the right place. There are lots of forums to join in and you can learn a lot. Feel free to also share what you know 'cos that's how we learn - from each other. Now on to business.

I think it's natural for people to go through some kind of identity confusion, or at least to question where they stand sexually. I don't know where I read that but it seems true. (They'll argue this point to me in the deep south, but that's for another forum). Here at WP I've found that people really care for each other and tend to stay away from being judges. Only you can, of course, decide which way you're gonna swing, but you can rest knowing that whatever you choose, the kind folks at WP got your back.

How about just being content with the idea of liking what you like? Unless this would actually cause social or other problems for you, why not just go with the flow?

thanks for the replies guys. very kind of you.

being attracted to women and being attracted to men is not at all mutually exclusive. id guess you're bisexual, but i wouldnt worry about categories if i were you. when you're attracted to someone youll know it and thats all that matters.

thanks echinopsis

I agree. I'm bi, myself. And it's just one of those things where, if you're attracted to someone, then you're attracted to someone. I swing more towards "teh wimminz" myself, but there are certainly some men I would go for. I'm married, and my wife is also bi, but we're quite happy with each other as things are. No judging. It's funny because we can hang out and check people out (men and women) and laugh about who we think is hot or not. My point is, don't worry about what you're feeling. Just go with it. Do what makes you happy.

thankyou. that was very helpful

It sounds like you might be bisexual. When I was younger, say 12 or 13, I thought I was bisexual. I was attracted males and females, but mostly males. Now I'm exclusively attracted to men.