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06 May 2012, 3:46 pm

I'm trying the best I can to deal with being single as a gay guy with really no nice guys around that would work best for me. What I do a lot is when I'm alone or in bed, I pretend there's a guy next to me a lot. I thank myself for not letting my desire of a relationship take over my life and I do at least value my friends and family. I'm going to college in august so I hope to find a wonderful guy for me :] What's the best way to deal with being single?



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06 May 2012, 5:25 pm

I spent a lot of time masturbating and throwing myself at cheap prospects. I don't recommend this as a viable option.



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06 May 2012, 5:52 pm

Regular, engulfing distraction?



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06 May 2012, 8:32 pm

I guess so



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07 May 2012, 10:22 pm

I'm happy to be single. I wouldn't know what to do with a romantic relationship even if it fell on top of me.


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08 May 2012, 2:49 am

a suitable mate would come in very handy.



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08 May 2012, 3:58 am

The best way to deal with being single is to try to enjoy it for the time being. For example, now that I'm in a relationship I have much less time for myself. To the OP: when you go to college you might want to check if the college has a lgbt-group. Groups are often much better for finding partners than bars



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08 May 2012, 10:15 am

Heidi80 wrote:
The best way to deal with being single is to try to enjoy it for the time being. For example, now that I'm in a relationship I have much less time for myself. To the OP: when you go to college you might want to check if the college has a lgbt-group. Groups are often much better for finding partners than bars


There is an LGBT group at my college im going to and I hope to meet some wonderful people and even find a nice guy :)



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11 May 2012, 2:54 am

You know, being in a relationship (or otherwise not single) isn't always that great. There are days where I wish I was in a relationship, but then I remember that there's good and sucky parts about being single, and good and sucky parts about being in a relationship. :)


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13 May 2012, 3:24 pm

I've found that I really have to be satisfied with myself before I can be successful in a new relationship. There are times when I feel lonely being single, but I try not to let that hold me back. Sometimes I see a movie or go out for dinner by myself and I even have a good time.

Have you looked into purchasing a body pillow?



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13 May 2012, 5:47 pm

thatsrobrageous wrote:
Heidi80 wrote:
The best way to deal with being single is to try to enjoy it for the time being. For example, now that I'm in a relationship I have much less time for myself. To the OP: when you go to college you might want to check if the college has a lgbt-group. Groups are often much better for finding partners than bars


There is an LGBT group at my college im going to and I hope to meet some wonderful people and even find a nice guy :)

Don't necessarily set your hopes too high on that one. At my university the LGBT association was a disappointment. There was one other guy there who looked like the sort of person I might get along with (he looked to be East Indian, so I hope for his sake that he comes from a very liberal family). But one person wasn't enough to justify the discomfort of attending meetings. But that said, everywhere is different so hopefully you'll have better luck.



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13 May 2012, 7:36 pm

I haven't looked in purchasing a body pillow but they do sound helpful.



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13 May 2012, 7:51 pm

Heidi80 wrote:
The best way to deal with being single is to try to enjoy it for the time being. For example, now that I'm in a relationship I have much less time for myself.
I agree. this is one of the things that really has me discoraged about being in a relationship
Not that I'm a selfish person but more than likely If i was to find a partner male or female they would be NT.

NT's expect certain things from you and I come off at times as a cold callus individual with no heart even though that isnt true