I dislike being a boy.

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I made a topic in the Adult part of Wrongplanet, but I didn't realize this part of Wrongplanet existed!

Anyway, I've made a request to have my topic moved here but until then, I'd like to know a few things.
My Mother seems to think that boys with Autism are naturally more feminine, are kind, gentle and come off as being homo-sexual, however, these are just stories she's read, and I've honestly haven't met any boy on this forum that was really that similar to me (or I haven't looked hard enough).

I'm disgusted by my own erections, and I certainly cannot imagine myself as a Man 20 years later in a relationship with a Woman... It's difficult for me because I have felt this way as a child, it used to bother me that people would call me gay, but now I love it! I love it when people call me a girlyboy or a Pretty Boy. I am rather Slim & Slender, I don't weigh that much and I'm about 5'5 Feet tall (I'm turning 19 next month and my 16 year old sister is almost just the same height as me, while my 14 year old brother is a few inches shorter then me.) I am naturally shorter then most boys my age and I can only seem to fit into girls pants/shoes correctly. Finding boys pants/shoes that fit me correctly is difficult.

Basically I want to know whether Autism has a possible effect on the way I feel or if I am a Tran-Sexual or not? I've always wanted the same benefits that a girl has... Not saying Women have more rights then Men, just that... I want to be able to have long hair, to feel pretty, attractive... To be able to wear dresses, skirts, etc... I can live without a Penis.

Recently my friends find me rather weird or most just assume I'm gay or something. I like the compliments that people give me (or insults?) when people say that I look "cute" or "pretty". I get mistakened as being 16 or 17 a lot and on some occassions people have mistakened me as a girl.

I don't feel this way because of my dislike of Male Gender Roles, or because I think the other side of the fence is nicer or greener, in fact, I am expecting to enter the other side of the fence with...Brown grass I suppose? There was this movie about this guy who had a wife, daughter, lovely home, nice friends, etc. I suppose you'd refer to him as being on the Green Side of the Grass, however he wasn't truly happy because he was a Homo-sexual living a lie. He admitted he was Homo-Sexual one day and did all these wacky and crazy things, he lost a lot of friends and people judged him, so I suppose this side of the fence is brown because of how society viewed him, however, he was truly happy because he finally was capable of being comfortable with himself.

I hang out with girls more, I like to go clothes shopping with them, and I always feel jealous because I can only watch them try on clothes or watch them buy girls clothes, I can only simply look at what I like.

Eh, I am babbling on, my other topic will explain more when it gets moved here, but from the sounds of it, does it sound like I have Gender Identity Disorder or is it just Autism + OCD?

Edit: I hate people thinking I am masculine, and have always been afraid of growing up because I feared I'd grow facial hair and that my voice would change. I freak out if I have stubble on my face and often make sure no one is capable of seeing it whatsoever, and I do seriously hate the Male Gender Roles. At the moment I wear girls shoes, socks and pants (Girls Skinny Jeans, girls white socks, girls runners), it's hard to tell that their for females really. I want to feel feminine, one of my female friends is willing to let me wear her clothes around her home, that makes me feel happy, my Mum is also willing to buy me some girls clothes, I am working my way into getting female hormones. Problem is, my Mum wants to take it slowly, I want to get it over with already!! !!

Thanks .

Just wish I could speed up this process!

I'm transgender, and 19. I also have Autism and OCD.

I remember before I started HRT, I was deeply DEEPLY disturbed by my body. The worst part was thinking that it could only get worse because I wasn't on HRT. After I started HRT though, I was totally comfortable with my body, (Just the lack of testosterone I think) and have stopped obsessing about it. (Unfortunatly HRT brought back my tourettes, but whatever, I can live...
I was always worrying about growing facial hair, my voice deepening, balding, etc etc. The intense focus was probably a part of the OCD, but hey, it made me transition and get that out of my way so I can be obsessive over other things.
Your EDIT really sounds a lot like what I went through just before I transitioned.

When I was younger I had a friend who thought I was a girl for about 3 months. I had long hair because I didnt like getting my hair cut (not because I wanted to look like a girl). Although I did want to be a girl for a while, I just didnt deliberatly do anything about it. I'm happy as a guy, but sometimes I still would like to be a girl for a while, just not perminantly.

I dont think this has much to do with your post but i felt like puting it here anyway.

I have autism, OCD and ADHD, and I've wanted to be a girl my entire life. I feel revulsion at my body, every single day, almost constantly. I'd even say I feel hatred at it, and at the fact that I was born male. I'm tall, 6"2', but my sister is 6"1', so I don't worry about that. At this point the only thing I think could make me feel better about myself and life in general is to transition, so I've been putting the wheels into motion and I'm going to try to see if I can see a psychologist that specializes in seeing transgender people - I'd like to start HRT, while I'm still young enough for it to have more of an effect.

I find it interesting to see others with AS or autism and OCD, with gender dysphoria.

Hi!

You've really clearly described what you're feeling, and it sounds like Gender Identity Dicorder or Gender Dysphoria. I think HRT would be the right way to go. Your Mom's scared; be persistent. Explain to her how important this is to you, keep explaining. You'll need to be persistent.

I identify as genderqueer, myself. I've got X-Y chromosome and tits, which I'm fine with. Male and female just don't, either of them, feel right to me.

A lot of people with autism have atypical gender presentation, gender identity, or sexual orientation. I'm not sure how much of it is a result of our neurology and brain chemistry, and how much is that a lot of the early socialization that our culture uses to try and make people fit in bounces right off us!

There are a lot of great resources out there for transgender people, like http://www.genderodyssey.org/
Good luck!

Im transgender, also born intersexed so I guess im not a NORMAL trangender person but ive found that alot of the trans people Ive met have some form of autism,
GID is not that rare nor is autistic spectrum disorders so, its not uncommon to have both,, certainly autism can make GID that much worse but. t doesnt exclude the possibility...
though im not the best person for this been pretty much living as female since I was 10...saved my parents money on "corrective" srugeries lol

OMG I make no sense ~_~

Regarding OP's request - sorry, but we don't delete threads - that is official forum policy. Unless it's spam or otherwise against forum rules.

I don't think being autistic necessarily makes one more prone to having gender identity issues, but people on the spectrum are generally more honest about such things than people who aren't. Myself, I've actually had some gender identity issues in the past, but I eventually sort of "came to terms" with being male, and realized that it's OK to have a feminine side. I also realized that I have more of a prominant masculine side than I once thought, but it just took a while to come out. I don't think of myself as being female, but I do think I'm less masculine than the average guy in a number of ways.

I'll admit, sometimes I fantasize about having a female body and being a lesbian, but that's not really the same thing as actually *wishing* I were female. I don't think I'd be strong enough to be a woman, I mean, they go through things like menstruation and childbirth, both of which I imagine must be excrutiatingly painful. I would probably die from the pain of giving birth to something, and I thank the Flying Spaghetti Monster for not giving me a body capable of giving birth. Of course, there's still the possibility I might be impregnated by aliens, in which case I'm a goner...

You should not overlook the possibility of being a tomgirl.

I had a similar problem when people told me I sound like a boy and that I have a boy's personality, even people on internet used to mistake me for a boy, but I can't imagine myself as a boy so I guess I identify as a girl but my intrests aren't girly.

Huh. You're a woman...?

You may be agender. There are probably lots of people who are, it's just that there's no reason for them to be apparent. Kind of like asexuals were/are.