What is my sexuality? I don't know!

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I am an aspie girl and I am questioning my sexuality right now. What would I "be"?

I have always liked boys and had crushes on them when I was little. Now as I am in my late teens I am questioning my sexuality. I am starting to have a feeling for girls. Also I am having a lot of sex dreams and I having that "male brain" because I am also thinking about sex. When I have those dreams I am both a girl and a boy. I am a Virgin in real life. I have never told my parents about this because I feel embarrassed by it. What is going on?

It is perfectly normal to be confused at your age. Sex and sexuality are confusing. Thinking about sex is also normal and has far more to do with hormones than having a 'male brain'. Being attracted to boys, girls, both or neither are all equally valid. Go with what feels comfortable for you, not what you think is expected of you. Keep in mind that you don't have to make a lifetime decision now. Experiment to find your comfort zone.

We can't tell you what your sexuality is.

It's up to you to identity as what you want. Just go with the flow.

Watch gay porn.
Watch regular porn.
Watch weird porn.

All of the answers will become clear.

Ok thanks for answering me.

No. Porn is NOTHING like sex in real life. It will only confuse and mess you up even more. Do not take Samual's suggestion seriously, please, for the love of God xD

It's also perverted and NOT right, I don't care what your orientation is, it's disgusting.

I tried that. The results confused me even further. If you have a strong 'ick' response to a particular type of porn you can be fairly sure you aren't that way inclined. Apart from that IMHO the results of such an experiment are pretty useless.

MightyMorphin is quite right. Porn is nothing like real life. I've become more acclimatised to it now but if I'd gone with porn as a means to determine sexuality I'd be a monk now.

But perverted? Nooo, I don't think so. Of course, I'm a little biased. I have no interest in porn myself but I've been paid to "star" in a few photoshoots. I wasn't being exploited. If anything, I feel I was exploiting them!

Women think about sex too, they just don't admit it like guys do.

One thing to remember about dreams, they often aren't what they seem at face value. They are often heavily metaphorical.

I would say would you like to have sex with a girl, or a guy, or both?

I am kind of confused about mine as well.......I mean I am not sure if I am asexual or bisexual and just too depressed and anxious to relax enough for sex. I mean thing is I have enjoyed some intimacy with both males and females....moreso with males and well it just never does much for me once it gets to the whole sexual intercourse part(which has only happened with guys). But then I enjoy some of the things that might lead up to it regardless of gender.

So yeah I don't really know anymore, I was going to stick with asexual but I am not really sure enough about it.